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Hi oloni. I’m so confused. I’ve been talking to this guy for about 3 months and we’ve been out and had really good times. He’s everything I want but there are a few things that are making me war, he has kids from previous relationships and he is not from the same country as me (but we are both Asian). We started off as a lets see where this can go, but I know he’s caught feelings and I’m thinking I might have too. But I just cannot get over those two issues. Should I end it sooner rather than later?
20. October 2015
If you feel there is no way around it then yes. Don’t create problems for yourself in the future.
Me and my bf have been together for 2 and half years on and off we’ve had our our ups and downs but manage to get through them all. However he has become terrible at replies like I don’t know if I’m over thinking this too much but before he would reply no matter what or at least explain why he hasn’t replied. Now these days I won’t get a reply till the next day (sometimes) or hours later and no explanation and if I ask him he becomes rude or just avoids the question so I have to ask him again. He’ll just say he was busy and that if he doesn’t reply he was busy. It’s really annoying me and I’ve spoke to him about this before and it just ends in a pointless argument which is never resolved.
20. October 2015
Well, if this is something that keeps happening, you have a choice as to whether or not you want to continue with this relationship especially if you’ve spoken about it times without number.
Its my BF birthday soon. Any ideas of what to do? Its been a rough summer for us. So want to make him happy again . Thanks hun
20. October 2015
If he loves music and enjoys live shows, why not surprise him with tickets to an artist who might be coming to town soon. Enjoy the experience together.
Hi Oloni, I just started talking to this guy and I’m falling for him. He seems that he likes me but his intentions are unclear at the moment. Would I be doing the right thing if I was to pursue anything with him?
20. October 2015
Ge to know him more and relax.
Hi Oloni! I have a male best friend who has been there for me this past year and we’re very close. But he does this thing where he makes future comments about us as a couple then asks as if he’s joking. I always talk to him about girls and he acts like it bothers him. I honestly believe if I wasn’t a 24 year old virgin then we would have had sex because we are attracted to each other. I just feel he’s not trying to be in a relationship with me because of that but honestly I just want him as a friend. I’ve tried telling him but he’s now ignoring me because I said I cherished his friendship. I don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to also give him hope when I know I don’t want a boyfriend right now. Yours sincerely, the confused best friend
20. October 2015
Hi Best Friend, the truth is you’re both confused and you need to speak to each other instead of thinking this isn’t happening, because of that and just guessing all together. Speak, talk have a chat and ask questions.
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