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Hello Oloni I’ve been reading through your dilem mas and really value your advice. I also feel you are the only person who can help me with my problem as your advice will be objective. I started university recently and feel like I’ve grown as a person however I left things back home in a bad way with my ex boyfriend who used to be one of my close friends it’s been over a year now but I feel like I should apologise for what I did not in the hope to form a relationship just so he knows I’m sorry and do I clear my concious. I’ve tried to get in touch with him but hasn’t responded I’ve stopped trying as I don’t want to be a pest. Does him not responding mean anything ? Shall I try again ? Let it go ?Thank you
7. October 2015
He might be ignoring you, but it’s good that you want to reach out and apologise. I’m all for clearing things up between ex lovers but I wouldn’t suggest calling all texting. Perhaps an email? He doesn’t have to respond, but just understand and accept what your intentions have been so you can move on.
when is your next speed dating event?
7. October 2015
Sooner than you know!
Hi Oloni, I was on and off with my ex for about 2 years. We still talk and I still love him, but recently he told me he was now with somebody else. I was hurt but I thought it would be better to respect his new relationship and give him some space. However he still insists on making contact with me all the time and tells me how beautiful I’m looking. I don’t know whether to cut off all contact with him or try and remain friends.
7. October 2015
I think keeping a respectable distance would be best. Just think how you would feel if your new boyfriend had this same interaction with his ex girlfriend?
I met this guy about a month and a half ago going on two months. We literally speak like 3 times a day on the phone where he will call or I will but I enjoy speaking to him and he does to. However everytime I have brought up meeting up he always had an excuse and has never suggested us meeting and when he has he has flopped! The first time he mentioned me seeing him was when it was after midnight and I declined as I said it was too late for me m. What should I do as I don’t feel like I should have to keep asking to see someone that calls me everyday without fail.
7. October 2015
He’s not very serious and sounds slightly creepy. If he keeps cancelling, he must be hiding something, because this doesn’t add up.
Hi Oloni I’m 20 and will be giving birth early next year. The boy who got me pregnant cheated on his girlfriend and took my virginity .The girlfriend of around 2 years knows about the pregnancy because he told her however whilst telling her he has also lied about the whole situation. She has decided to stay with him but he has said he doesn’t want no involvement with the child and they have both claimed they don’t care about the situation. Which I know she clearly cares. However I feel as a women she is condoning what he has decided to do and I even feel like he won’t be involved even more because he’s scared of what she may think. What do you think?
7. October 2015
I think the whole situation is messed up and I understand your hurt, but remember she has nothing to do with it. This is between you and the soon to be father of your baby. If he’s saying he wants nothing to do with the pregnancy and the life you both created, that’s his very own selfish decision….no woman can force a guy to not care about the life of a child. . that’s all him.. all you needs to do right now is focus on you. Focus on your health and the babies. The relationship status between those him and her should be at the back of your mind. So keep yourself around family, keep yourself around friends, not those who don’t care.
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