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Hello Oloni, ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I went to get my contraception stopped about two weeks ago because we have decided to start a family and part of the procedure is to have an sti testing done, i had one done in april which was clear and so did he. However when i got my result last week it was detected that i had chlamydia which is impossible because hes my only sexual partner. I told him about the result and a part of me feels like he thinks ive been unfaithful & thats how i caught it(we are awaiting his test result) what do i do? i know im innocent but theres no other explanation of how i got it and i don’t want him thinking i’ve been unfaithful
20. September 2015
Something like chlamydia can be passed through intercourse after having sex only once. It doesn’t come from no where and chances are he has it too. You have to wait for his results to come back and make sure he takes the meds. Have a proper discussion about it. Just because you found out you had it first doesn’t mean he isn’t guilty of slipping up.
Hi oloni I was cheated on in my last two relationships and all my friends have been cheated on my guy friends tell me all about their cheating stories & I’ve got to a point where I actually think all men cheat which scares me cause I’m only 22 and I feel like I won’t be able to find someone who is loyal in this generation. I really don’t want this mentality but I find it so hard to think otherwise especially due to the fact that ever since I was cheated on I find it so hard to trust men I think they all cheat and it upsets me that I have become this way it’s almost like I hate men
20. September 2015
You’re 22. An age where a lot of men in your age group aren’t serious. This isn’t an excuse for your experience, but it’s the reality. It seems like you need to take some time out of dating so you don’t carry on having this mentality that all men are the same, because that’s what it’s starting to seem like. Yes, you’ve been hurt, but you’re way too young to give up hope. Heal, learn and repeat to help you move past all of this.
I found out my fwb has a girl but claims they are having issues. I don’t know what to do but is it good to keep him
20. September 2015
No, it’s not a good idea to still have him in the picture. If you know he has a girlfriend, leave before this turns into more drama.
Hello Oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about three weeks now. We were sort of friends for a year and he had been asking me out all through even when I had a boyfriend. I believe he does love me but my problem is his “best friend”. It’s a girl and they’ve know each other for long. He seeks her advice on everything and doesn’t expect me to bother about it. Very recently, he put up a status saying he should’ve married her but she’s his best friend and she’s just good at what she does. Now, this makes me really uncomfortable. I want us to last long and keeping quiet won’t help. But I don’t want to seem like I’m overreacting or I do not trust him!
17. September 2015
Nuh uh you need to have a few words with mr boyfriend. He’s acting very inappropriate and you need to pull him up on it. If this is how he’s behaving three week into the relationship think very carefully about progressing with it.
I’ve been speaking to this guy for a while. In the past he’s made me believe he’s interested and now I feel like the conversation is forced (he doesn’t want to talk). I have a feeling I’ve made him believe that I wasn’t interested, but I am. What do I do?
17. September 2015
Have a conversation with him and ask if his feelings are still mutual.
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