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hi oloni. I have been dating this guy for a while I had no problem with him, until he approached my friend, even tried kissing her,were he told her that he only dated me to get close to her at first and some bad things about me, when I confronted him he blames it on the beer as he was drunk . The thing is he says he still loves me and all that, but I am sure even if we get back I won’t trust him again. What I wanna know is that, should I trust that he did all those things because he was drunk or not?
4. October 2015
This dude sounds like a mess for someone you were only dating. Let it go.
Hi Oloni, I can’t stop thinking about this guy i dated for a couple months last year, until his ex got back in the picture, came to my uni and now they’re together. I feel like I’m still affected by how she approached the situation knowing well that he was dating me. How do i get over him? because i loved him as a friend before we started dating. But it makes me question his motive of even dating me and if his feelings were genuine. help!
4. October 2015
The issue wasn’t her, it was him. She didn’t owe you anything…zip. If the period of the time you were spending together was so important to him, there would have been no way for her to get back into the frame of things. The truth is.. this was a year ago, and you have to stop thinking about it and think of different ways to keep yourself busy. I understand you’re hurt and perplexed but sometimes when you date these are the type of issues you’ll have to face. It’s up to you to decide how you’ll move forward.
Hi! I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now and the same problem keeps on popping up whenever we have an argument. He never admits to being wrong on his part and always finds someone to blame, usually me though. For instance I hardly get my nails done(acrylics) and he’s always going on about how I should get them done because other girls do. He even said I don’t take care of myself because I don’t get my nails done. I was so hurt by that statement, and when I spoke up about it, he didn’t apologize. Rather, he tried to make it seem like it was all my fault. Will I ever get through to him or should I end things for goo?
4. October 2015
Eh, he sounds slightly manipulative. He’s trying to change you and make you feel bad about something you care very little for. That’s hurtful and should not be expected, if he refuses to see his faults, you’re going to have to ask yourself whether or not this is something you can carry on investing your time in. Comparing you to other women is a big no, no and a strike.
I’m 26 and seeing this guy from work who is 39. We have been dating for 2 months and he has 2 kids which he only told me about recently. Its slightly put me off but he’s reassured me that I don’t need to be a step mum and that his ex wife is completely out of his life. They only speak when he goes to see his kids. He treats me sooo well and I have already met some of his friends and family. I really like him but I discussed with my Mum and she’s totally against it. I don’t know whether we should still pursue with this relationship because my mum and others don’t approve but I really am falling for him and treats me like a queen. Help!
4. October 2015
If you want to continue dating him, date him, but remember it’s only been 2 months.. it’s still very early, so don’t be too infatuated. You’re an adult so you’re allowed to date whoever you want no matter how old they are. Make sure you’re asking him the right questions …such as how long he’s been divorced etc.
Hi oloni, I’m white and my boyfriends black. He’s become socially aware and is now woke. I have no issue with this its just that He’s been tweeting about how we need to protect our black queens and he posts pictures of other women on Twitter, It’s made me feel uncomfortable he also laughs when people mock white peoples lips and although my lips aren’t thin they aren’t thick either and i just feel like he’s taking jabs at my life and wants to end our relationship. I really love him just his socially media persona upsets me. I don’t know what to do, any advice? And Could you make this QOTD
1. October 2015
I’ll make this a #QOTD but my personal advice is that you need to talk to him about it. If it offends you, you have to remind him that these things do upset you and it’s understandable. He can become as woke as hell, but he also needs to remember not to be insensitive towards the woman he’s with. Communication is always key!
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