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Hi Oloni, as someone who claims to be a Christian I don’t understand how you can promote fornication when it clearly states in the bible that it is a sin. I understand that not all of your audience may be Christian, but if you claim to be one I believe your advice should be given from a Christian perspective.
31. August 2015
The bible says many things and we still do it all. I’m a sinner and I’m sure you are, but what I can also accept is the reality of things which is young women having sex! I not only promote fornication, I promote healthy consensual fornication, I help individuals get in touch with their sexuality, I give answers some women are unsure of when it comes to sex. Do you know how awesome that feels? I help those who have have been sexually abused and have been too afraid to talk about it. I do a lot more than just ‘promote fornication’. The name of my blog is also called ‘Simply Oloni’ meaning I write this blog from my own perspective. My religion, faith and spirituality has nothing to do with my blog of 8 years and never has. Hence why women of different cultural and religious background and beliefs have been able to reach out to me.
Enjoy the rest of your day 🙂
Hey. what is your take on having a friend with benefits? I have been considering it a lot lately because I’m single and bored of my life. Just need someone to entertain me you know. I do not want to be in a relationship at the moment. Would you suggest I pursue this friend with benefits thing? I mean it seems bad because the guy I do it with will not are about me but does that matter. Sorry for ranting but I’m struggling to express what I’m asking.
31. August 2015
There’s nothing wrong with having a FWB so long as you know yourself well enough to not catch feelings. Don’t choose someone you have a great relationship with as it can just potentially ruin it. Be safe and get tested!
Hey Oloni, recently I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and he’s kind of been indicating that he wants to take this to the next level and have sex. It’s seems like pretty much every time we hang out at his place or mine he always makes an attempt to get me in bed. I really really like him but I’m also really self-conscious of my body and I don’t feel confident enough for him to see me naked even though I kind of want to sleep with him as well. Im scared of what he’ll think when I take my clothes off. Am I just being too self-conscious? Help me please!
31. August 2015
You’re being very self-concious and that’s fine and also perfectly normal, you’re human! But you can break that down with time. The things I’d advise, is to leave your houses and make sure you do other things other than stay indoors and ‘chill’ it creates a temptation, one you don’t even seem too ready for. Sleep with him when you’re comfortable and ready.
Hey Oloni, so I came out of a 10 month relationship recently. I found out during this time my ex had got someone else pregnant & it was aborted which was a factor to the break up. However, 2 weeks after we broke up he started trying to talk to me again then he informed me that he has another baby on the way with another person which he is keeping meaning during our relationship there was more than one time of infidelity. He’s insisting that he can change but I’ve told him I can’t be with him, I mean who’s got time for baby mother drama and more cheating.. Is this the right decision?
31. August 2015
Of course.
Hey oloni, so I’mcurrently sseeing someone but seems like he’s not 100% into it but I don’t want to let him go cos the sex is so good but then again he doesn’t treat me right and feelings are already there so it’s hard to just make it a fwb situation but I’ve spoken to him already about getting his act together..what should I do
31. August 2015
Nothing, you just said he’s not 100% into it. Move on.
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