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Hello Oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about three weeks now. We were sort of friends for a year and he had been asking me out all through even when I had a boyfriend. I believe he does love me but my problem is his “best friend”. It’s a girl and they’ve know each other for long. He seeks her advice on everything and doesn’t expect me to bother about it. Very recently, he put up a status saying he should’ve married her but she’s his best friend and she’s just good at what she does. Now, this makes me really uncomfortable. I want us to last long and keeping quiet won’t help. But I don’t want to seem like I’m overreacting or I do not trust him!
17. September 2015
Nuh uh you need to have a few words with mr boyfriend. He’s acting very inappropriate and you need to pull him up on it. If this is how he’s behaving three week into the relationship think very carefully about progressing with it.
I’ve been speaking to this guy for a while. In the past he’s made me believe he’s interested and now I feel like the conversation is forced (he doesn’t want to talk). I have a feeling I’ve made him believe that I wasn’t interested, but I am. What do I do?
17. September 2015
Have a conversation with him and ask if his feelings are still mutual.
Hey Oloni,I went on a trip recently and I met a couple of people. There was a guy that was really talking to me, he suggested we sit down and talk. we were talking and he started implying that I move closer too him and I made sure I let him know that this made me uncomfortable but he kept insisting and trying to kiss my neck. I decided to just stand up and end the convo. Later on, he called to apologize and was asking if I would see him again. What should I do?
17. September 2015
Don’t give him another chance, he’s already shown creeper signs. Red flag.
Hello Oloni. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years(only 18 now) and shes my best friend and i really love her but i haven’t experienced any other girls and i am really curious so I don’t know what to do, beacuse i don’t want to cheat because i could never do that to her but i dont want to lose her either!
11. September 2015
Then you have to think carefully about what you really want. It’s okay to be curious, but you mustn’t always act on curiosity.
Hi, I met a guy at the gym 2 months ago and I feel like I’m leading him on or using him because he’s helping me reach my goals physically, however i know he wants a romantic relationship and I don’t. He’s 28 and I’m 20. He really likes me but atm I don’t feel the same, though we get along really well. I feel like I may be giving him mixed signals. I don’t want to lose the friendship but currently don’t want a relationship. What would be the best way to tell him without ruining it?
11. September 2015
You tell him without saying a thing. You have to learn to keep a professional relationship instead of a friendly one so he gets the hint. If you’re texting each other or on the phone when it has nothing to do with training, then stop. Anything that he does that may seem suggestive such as asking you out on a date you turn it down.
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