Hi oloni I always see your tweets and I have been speaking to a guy since feb he even moved away and we still kept in contact and he’s back now he just randomly stopped talking to me like I know he’s never been in a relationship but I feel like I deserve a conversation before he stopped speaking to me and he’s done this before when he first moved away and I’ve told him not try pull that again and I feel silly now for even trusting him again and we’ve never slept together, should I just forget about him and move on or ?
6. September 2015
Hey, I started getting into relationships at a young age, well I was just having fun buts since I turned 19 I have been looking forward to meeting the right man, for three years now I haven’t met him yet, I know am still young am just 21, people say am very pretty and nice but any guy I meet never stays, once they see I like them and they have sex with me they go away, they stop being the nice guys I fall for, and it makes me so broken. Recently one of my exs came back to me, once he got what me wanted and saw I loved him he left me and went back with another girl that’s his ex, I left so bad and it reduced my self esteem, I felt like I wasn’t worth it or never good enough to be kept.i was so depressed that I even got into a big fight with my ex cause he came back just to useand ran off with another woman
6. September 2015
If this is something that’s quite frequent in your love life. Analyse what you’re doing and learn. If a guy you’re sleeping with leaves after you get intimate, then hold back a little till you feel the feelings are mutual. And I’m not talking about the honey moon stages of when you’re dating a guy for the first couple of months. Get to know him more. Try to find out about his character, so you know what type of person you’re allowing into your space. The truth is a lot of guys are after sex and will take it if it’s handed on a plate. It seems like you may be using sex in hopes of keep a guy around. You must always work on yourself and never allow a guy to lower your self esteem.
Hey Oloni, im in a new relationship with a girl I really like. Unfortunately there is a bit of an issue in the bedroom department. She has a very strong scent down below which can be off putting. As a result Im quite reluctant to go down. I dont want to hurt her feelings but feel I should try and help. What can I do to help the problem?
6. September 2015
If you’re comfortable enough to sleep with someone you have to be comfortable enough to be honest, especially if they’d like oral performed on them. Just be polite about the issue and let her know gently. Some ladies use soap on their lower area hoping it’ll clean their parts well without realising that soap is not to be used there. Ever. Only water. Just talk to her about it. You’ll be fine.
Hey Oloni. I’ve been on a few dates with a guy I met recently, and things seem to be going alright. Now I haven’t spoken to him in two days since our last date and was wondering whether that means he is not interested anymore. Is it really a problem if a guy doesn’t talk to you everyday?
6. September 2015
You don’t have to talk everyday, but remember you can initiate conversation also.
Hello Oloni. This is a bit embarrassing, but. My problem is that my boyfriend doesn’t like the way my privates look, and has started avoiding sex. He only told me the truth after almost 3 months without. Even before, he’d usually keep the lights off and he’s never tried going down on me. We both had no experience when we met so I think it’s why he was expecting something different?? He watched a lot of porn when he was younger so I think he was expecting the same thing he saw on there and was disappointed when he saw mine… I love him so much, I’m considering bleaching or surgery because I think he loves everything about me expect this one thing, am I the problem. Or is he?
6. September 2015
Your bf has allowed porn to become his sex education. Some men think that every vagina looks the same and they don’t. They all look different. Just use google and you’ll see the difference in shape, size colour etc. He’s being immature and you need to speak to him about it. If you have major concerns see a gynaecologist, but I’m sure there’s nothing wrong with how it looks.
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