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Hi Oloni. My boyfriend recently reached out to his ex after we had a major argument together. he instigated a break up but we got back together barely a day or two after and i forgave him. but hes been in touch with her over a long period of time since we got back together and i found out recently they had been sharing flirty mesages. he says he still loves me and he wants to go the distance and promised to shut her out but dont know what to believe. please help me. things are very weird between us now
31. August 2015
If he was sending her flirty messages while you two were together, then he’s not that serious about you. It’s either that or he’s using her as a plan B. I’s a huge red flag also.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been single for 4 years now after a unexpected breakup. I want to try seeing new people but I feel like I’ve lost interest in love – is there anything you can suggest for me?
31. August 2015
Try to date people and experience that. Go out more, get to know new people change your environment. You don’t have to look for love, but at least try to find someone who can make you happier.
Hi, read your blog everyday!! I’ve been on 3 dates with this guy, all the boxes r being ticked, only problem is he keeps on about me not talking to other guys. He seems to bring up the scenario of cheating A LOT!! Do I carry on or is this a red flag? Help me thank you!
31. August 2015
He’s definitely been involved with women who have cheated on him in the past. It’s more of a sign of trust issues. I’d suggest you tell him your concerns about the matter, take things very slowly.
Hey Oloni, I called you a few months ago when youd do your dilemma calls before. I cried on the phone to you because I couldn’t leave the guy I was with even after he had mistreated me for years and gave me an sti on multiple occasions. You shared words that uplifted me and never got off the phone till I stopped crying. We spoke for an hour even when it was supposed to be a few minutes and for that I am grateful. I am no longer in that situation, but I had to make sure I thanked you for giving me the hope I was looking for. Please keep doing what you’re doing. Women like myself need you. Thank you
26. August 2015
I remember this phone call! I’m glad you were able to sort thid out & if you ever need a chat do email me.
Good evening Oloni. I recently got into a “situation” with a guy I met off Twitter. It’s been a month now and we’ve had sex a couple of times, he’s special to me (gave me my first orgasm uno) but since the first day we had sex I felt horrible pains during and after sex and I told him I’d love if we went to get ourselves tested and he refused. About two weeks later I’m having jet black blood coming out of my vagina and he still refuses to get a test but he claims to have “feelings” for me. I’m currently receiving treatment but he still won’t go and get tested. I can’t deal with a man who won’t grant my little request to get tested. Today he said I should have cajoled him and spoken to him calmly about it. Something I’ve brought up more than once. He’s making it seem like I’m overreacting. I don’t know what to do now. Is it Me or is it him?
26. August 2015
You need to stop wasting your time with someone who does not want to get themselves checked. No matter how great the orgasm was, his health is clearly not important to him, which speaks volumes of himself.
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