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Hey Oloni, so I came out of a 10 month relationship recently. I found out during this time my ex had got someone else pregnant & it was aborted which was a factor to the break up. However, 2 weeks after we broke up he started trying to talk to me again then he informed me that he has another baby on the way with another person which he is keeping meaning during our relationship there was more than one time of infidelity. He’s insisting that he can change but I’ve told him I can’t be with him, I mean who’s got time for baby mother drama and more cheating.. Is this the right decision?
31. August 2015
Hey oloni, so I’mcurrently sseeing someone but seems like he’s not 100% into it but I don’t want to let him go cos the sex is so good but then again he doesn’t treat me right and feelings are already there so it’s hard to just make it a fwb situation but I’ve spoken to him already about getting his act together..what should I do
31. August 2015
Nothing, you just said he’s not 100% into it. Move on.
I’ve been with my girl for about three years now and still there’s something about her I just can’t trust. She’s wayyyy too sneaky and intentionally will do things like lead guys on as a method of getting back at me, when ever I mess up. What should I do?
31. August 2015
Speak about it and give her a chance, or move on from the relationship.
I really need help, my ex boyfriend of around 7-8 months repeatedly cheated on me and disrespected me, he is a compulsive liar and made me feel horrible about myself. He is one person with me and another with his friends, he says he still cares about me and part of me wants to believe him because I still love him. He sleeps around and I’ve given him so many chances for him to step up, I just want to be happy, what should I do?
31. August 2015
7-8 months? Say your goodbyes already.
Hi Oloni, I’m 18 and I’ve been seeing this guy for a few years on and off now but it has never been serious until the beginning of this year when we started sleeping with each other. He doesn’t see any other girls, he barely sees his friends as he is really concentrated on work and going to uni (which I perfectly understand and support). I’ve never met his mom, apparently she’s strict. I wanted your advice on what you think I should do as I really really like this guy and he is moving away for uni this September. When speaking to him about it he said he wants to concentrate on uni but added “who knows what the future holds”. He continues to speak to me everyday without fail and we get on so well but sometimes I think I should just stop to make it easier for myself but I’m not sure how I’d feel without being in contact with him. The distancing myself doesn’t work, I miss him too much. Please help ..
31. August 2015
You’re too young to be worrying about a guy! What he just explained was that things will not be developing into a relationship tomorrow, but he doesn’t mind staying friends and talking from time to time. You’re hanging on to certain words, but missing the whole message.
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