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Hi Oloni, I’m 18 and I’ve been seeing this guy for a few years on and off now but it has never been serious until the beginning of this year when we started sleeping with each other. He doesn’t see any other girls, he barely sees his friends as he is really concentrated on work and going to uni (which I perfectly understand and support). I’ve never met his mom, apparently she’s strict. I wanted your advice on what you think I should do as I really really like this guy and he is moving away for uni this September. When speaking to him about it he said he wants to concentrate on uni but added “who knows what the future holds”. He continues to speak to me everyday without fail and we get on so well but sometimes I think I should just stop to make it easier for myself but I’m not sure how I’d feel without being in contact with him. The distancing myself doesn’t work, I miss him too much. Please help ..
31. August 2015
You’re too young to be worrying about a guy! What he just explained was that things will not be developing into a relationship tomorrow, but he doesn’t mind staying friends and talking from time to time. You’re hanging on to certain words, but missing the whole message.
Hey oloni, during uni I was having sex with a guy for around 4-5 months however during that time he would take me out and treat me like his “girlfriend” now we have gone home for summer I haven’t heard from him at all he’s completely dropped me. My ex boyfriend did the same thing. They just wake up one day and decide they no longer want me it’s really effecting my confidence as I think boys don’t see me as a “long term” woman. Any tips on boosting my confidence?
31. August 2015
Date different/MORE guys and don’t allow them to play with your confidence. They shouldn’t determine how you feel about yourself and if tnhat is the case, take some time out and work on yourself before jumping back in the dating pool.
Hi Oloni I have a foot fetish – I would really love to play with my gfs feet during our intimate times. But she doesn’t know about this, and I very very subtly hinted at my fetish a while back and she kind of gave me a slight weird look and then shrugged it off and we’ve never talked about it since.
31. August 2015
We all have fantasies and even fetishes, she’d your girlfriend so relax! However, if you wan to feel more comfortable about the F word then just let her know that you like feet. There’s nothing weird about it, and it’s very normal.
hey oloni I am a girl I have been celibate for a yr out of choice and now ive started dating again like I know how to handle temptation but I really like this guy were not dating but how do I tell him I want to take it slow like im scared that will chase him away thanks in advance
31. August 2015
Any guy that runs off after you let him know, that you’d prefer if you took things slow is not for you. Just express yourself like you would to a friend. ‘I know we’ve just started to get to know each other, but I’d be very comfortable if we took things slowly’
Hey Oloni. I basically have a “boyfriend fluffier” situation going on. came out of a difficult relationship and I started talking to some guy, honestly he’s made me feel so much better about myself and I thought I liked him. However I’ve realised that my feelings for him aren’t legit and I’m kinda falling for someone else. I’ve told him I’m not ready and I don’t want to pursue anything with him atm. We did have sex a few times but I put a stop to that. He’s a lovely guy and he goes above and beyond to try and help me out but he’s not getting the hints and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to hurt him but I feel like I’m already in way too deep. What can I do or say to him to make it clear that this isn’t what I want with him without really hurting him please?
31. August 2015
Then stop giving him hints and just be straight ‘I don’t think this is going to work out, I think you and I want different things’. You also need to stop sleeping with him and allowing him to do things for you, or you’ll just be sending mixed messages which will not benefit your situation.
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