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Oloni, my bf of 5 months started talking to his ex again and he just told me she asked him if he loves me. He really loved her and the only reason they aren’t together is b/c she called it off. Should I be worried she’s back in his life? P.S he liked her for over 6 months before they dated for 6 months and he didn’t tell me he was talking to her until I shared something serious with him as a confession in which he felt he owed me a confession instead 🙁
11. September 2015
It’s great that he was honest with you, but the next step you need to take is to ask if he still has feelings for his ex. He shouldn’t be in contact with her and he knows it hence why he’s kept it a secret. Talk to him and find out where his head is at.
Hey Oloni, how are you?. I’d just like to firstly say that you do not get enough credit for what you do so thank you on behalf of everyone you help. Sooo I’ve been talking to this guy it was going really well. He says he really wants to get to know me and suggested that we do something. So I came up with a date plan of something to do. He totally read what I said and ignored me. It’s been like 5 day!!. You can’t just do that, what should I do. Xx
11. September 2015
Follow up from your message and ask why he didn’t respond. If his reason is forgiveable it’s up to you to decide whether or not you’d like to give it another shot. It was wrong of him to totally ignore the message if he said he’d like to get to know you more.
Hey Oloni, I really admire what you do, thanks. I was sexually abused by my biological father when I was a kid. He’s obvs not in the picture anymore. But I realised that all my boyfriends have looked exactly like him and I called them ‘daddy’ and I have some kind of daughter-like dependency with my current )Am I messed up?
11. September 2015
Hey love, I’m sorry to hear what happened, but I do believe you need to seek professional help and see a therapist.
I’ve was talking to this guy for 5 years and we’ve now been seeing each other for another two years. Shortly before we started seeing each other he had a child from a one night stand, which I was fine with as we weren’t seeing each other. He has recently now had another child with the same woman. I’m feeling like he now has a family and there’s no need for me to be in the picture. Would I be doing the right thing to leave? Because between work and his first child we barely spend time together.
11. September 2015
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now, he has a daughter. I feel like it’s time to meet her but he’s very secretive about her, I’m not sure why and I don’t know what to do
6. September 2015
You have to talk to him about it. Some people are very protective and may not want to introduce their child till perhaps marriage, but four years even has me raising my brow.
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