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Hey. I have been chatting to this guys for 6 years now, long distance. We have been friends since primary school. We both agree that we are more than friends. However, he has not suggested that we should move to the next level so ask me to be his girlfriend? What should I do? So confused
1. October 2015
I’m confused, have you seen each other in these 6 years? If not call it quits. You’re wasting your time.
Hi. What are your views on dating a guy who has a baby from a prior relationship? He is the sole carer of that child?
1. October 2015
Unless you’re old enough to have a kid of your own, I don’t always think it’s the greatest idea. But the decision is yours if he’s a good person and treats you right, then go for it.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years, I know he loves me, he treats me really well, shows me off, and I’ve met the family and get on really well with them. However he is also a massive flirt and all our major issues are to do with him having inappropriate conversations with other girls, (one time being an ex). Just the other day when I had his phone a girl was sending him selfies on whatsapp I asked him why she was comfortable to do that and decided to look at some of their convos, which didn’t go back very far because he had deleted them, once again the conversation was inappropriate and she mentioned something about him making her cum, he then admitted that they had once ‘sexted’. He’s been very apologetic, telling me he’s going to make it up to me and how much he loves me, I’ve told him that I can’t put up with it anymore and he’s asked that I give him one more chance and if anything ever happens remotely close this I should leave him. Should I give him another chance?
27. September 2015
You shouldn’t ignore red flags, if you know he’s a flirt you must understand that it is a part of his nature to be inappropriate with other women. The thing with this scenario is when he does it, he’s actively telling women he does not respect his relationship or you. So why would they? If you believe it’s something you can forgive and work on from then do so, but do not let him believe he’s completely off the hook. Making it up to you isn’t necessary having respect for you is.
How am I supposed to get over a long term partner (3 and a half years together) who broke up with me one day but seemed so content with everything and claimed I was the best thing to ever happen to them?
27. September 2015
You need to analyse the relationship properly. Is that how things really were, or is that how you felt? Either way, I’ll tell you what I tell a lot of women. You must use this as an experience that will help make you stronger, keep yourself busy and work on you. The sadness you’re feeling will pass but you have to give it time.
Hi Oloni. There this guy I’ve been messing with on and off for about a year. We’ve done everything together even to the extent of having sex, but he never put a title on it. We basically had a bond with no title. So he came back into my life recently & off course now I’m currently talking to somone else & he won’t leave me alone. He basically said he doesn’t want to let me go & he doesn’t want me talking to anyone else. He gets very obessive & he’s manipulative. He also went to the extent of choking me & almost “raping” me. But off course I went back again & we had sex. But I have this new guy and I don’t know what to do. I would love to be with him, but he doesn’t want a relationship right now. I’m confused.
27. September 2015
You need to leave both men alone, especially the one who you described as obsessive. He’s treating you as if he owns you, he choked you and was sexually indecent towards you. Are you after a happy relationship or are you looking for a guy who can fill an empty void?
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