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I’m having a sexual chemistry issue with my bae. He likes rough and fast sex and I prefer slow and intimate sex. I’ve tried different things but he doesn’t change and the pounding always leaves me in pain :/ I just don’t feel the sexual chemistry anymore to the point we have to use so much lube because I’m not excited enough
21. November 2015
Eeeek!! You should not be left in pain due to his rough sex. Talk to him and let him know that you are not enjoying it, he is not having sex with himself, nor are you a blow up doll. There is no reason as to why you should continue to have sex, if you’re always left uncomfortable. Make sure you verbalise the way you prefer to be penetrated. Rough sex does not always = great sex
Hi Oloni i’m in a weird situation and have no idea why its happening. However all 3 of my ex’s have somehow gotten back in contact with me after seeing me in town or at an event.And i’m not entertaining the situation but all relationships ended on a good term no bad blood, but if i were to be truthful to myself is it bad that a small part in me wants to go back to one of them and give it another go, because he wants to aswell. Or would you suggest I leave it to how it is.
21. November 2015
It really does depend on why you broke up in the first place. Have a conversation and make sure you’re both on the exact same page. The last thing you want is to go back to someone only to realise why you broke up a few weeks in.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and love him to death. Recently I just haven’t been as attracted to him as I used to be and now see having sex as a chore. What should I do
21. November 2015
Perhaps your libido is really low right now and that’s perfectly normal. Women go through these things all the time. I would suggest you let him know so he understands in case he can tell something is up.
What do I do when my boyfriend is trying to get to know another girl whilst he’s with me ?
21. November 2015
If it makes you uncomfortable you simply speak to him about it at raise the issue.
Hi, I was briefly seeing one guy a year ago and met another guy at the same time and later out found out that both guys knew each other. Over a year has passed since me and the first guy, do you think that I’ll be loving the crew if I start seeing the other guy? btw I’m not sure if he knows the true extant of me and his friend
21. November 2015
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