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There is this girl which only calls my boyfriend when she has issues with her man. Am I suppose to be okay with her wanting some emotional support from my boyfriend? I mean this girl has even cried on the phone to him & has also been like she wishes she had a guy like him. Am I overreacting or do I have every right to feel some type of way about this?
28. November 2015
Yeah I can see why you’d be a bit irritated, you have a good boyfriend and he’s clearly a good friend to others. Just talk to him about it. If it’s constantly being done and making you uncomfortable you should be able to say so no one wants to feel like they’re sharing their other half.
I’ve been with my bf for over two years now and we still haven’t had sex it’s my fault because he has a extremely larger sized penis and its soo very painful every time we try he always stops when he sees i am in pain so we never get to actually do it. Although he is very patient it is frustrating for us both we have the strongest sexual chemistry we enjoy each other so much doing other activities but I feel bad every tune and he’s expressed to me how badly he would like us to have sex I fear that he will give up and dump me or get it somewhere else I need help !!
28. November 2015
It’s not your fault, you both just have to really relax. Have you tried different techniques so you can get past stage 1 …such as lubricant? This normally helps especially for those who are in the same position as you. Make sure you’re engaging in a lot of foreplay also. I do think you should have a chat with him about your worries too, just to put your own mind at rest.
My “boyfriend” stole money from me behind my back because I logged into his Snapchat account and now he’s refusing to give it back, what do I do?
28. November 2015
I’ve known this guy since I was 17/18 (I’m 21 now) and I’ve always had a thing for him but never had the guts to tell him. We recently got closer and ended up having sex. He’s been trying to see me ever since but I keep coming up with excuses so he can’t. I’m still very much attracted to him if not more so I’m not sure why I’m running from him is this normal at all because I’m so confused he makes more effort to talk than I do so much so that he now thinks I’m avoiding him; what should I do ?
28. November 2015
You seem uninterested, so do the right thing and let him know.
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life and I am very much satisfied, but I’ve log had secret BDSM fantasies that I’ve never expressed. He knows I enjoy being spanked and strangled, but one time I joked about ties and cuffs and he made it very clear he was NOT into it. How can I suggest it in a way that may cause him to consider it in a different way?
28. November 2015
Bring it up in a conversation and let him know these are one of your fantasies. You just need to have a chat about it the next time sex is the topic.
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