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I’ve been single for time now like over 5years(I’m 22) & been dating but like it never goes past the sex stage. I’m worried if something is wrong with me or I’m being too picky
28. November 2015
Why don’t you book a phone call session with me. I answer this question often, yet I think some women overlook it or don’t understand how dating works. You can talk to me personally here
Hi Oloni, congrats on your win btw you deserve it! I’ve been with my partner for 2yrs now we have a baby together (I love my little family) during my pregnancy and now even 8 months after my daughter our sex life has suffered due to my low libido. I’ve recently gotten it back but I don’t want to tell my partner instead I’ve found myself reminiscing about my past sexual relationships and I’m getting intense urges to contact one of them as the sex was amazing (I’ve never cheated before) I love my partner but feel like the attraction isn’t there anymore and something about forbidden sex suddenly excites me. What to do?
28. November 2015
Thank you! I’m sure you know it’s very common amongst women to have a low libido from time to time. Sometimes you’re ready to rip his clothes off like an animal and other times the thought of sex just seems like a chore you’d rather postpone. It’s good to hear it’s back however, but now there’s another issue the ‘forbidden sex’ phase (well I’d like it to be a phase for you) that you’re currently going through. It’s perfectly natural to reminisce about an ex who hit the spot differently, but acting on it wouldn’t be wise. I’d advise that you try watering your own grass and think of ways to make your sex life something Ann Summers would be jealous about. Try indulging in fantasies with your partner, make it naughty, make THAT forbidden. Don’t do something you’ll regret for a quick thrill.
I can’t stop having sex with my child’s father. We’re not together and although he hasn’t said anything I think he’s seeing someone. I can’t help it I know I shouldn’t but our sexual chemistry is crazy we can’t keep our hands off each other for more than half an hour. I know this is bad because I don’t want to be with him and eventually want to start dating again but I think this will always be a problem. What can I do?
28. November 2015
Any decision you wish to make and are absolutely serious about begins in your mind. So if you’re positive you want to refrain for being sexually involved with him, you need to start off by changing the dynamics of your relationship. From something as small as flirting for example. If you need more help book a phone call session here
Hey Oloni, congratulations on your award… Okay so I have a part time job and I met this guy at work, we go to the same school but his department is far from mine. Anyway, we got along at work and I’m starting to have feelings for him, do you think I should tell him ? What if he has a girlfriend? What should I do ?
28. November 2015
First find out if he’s single, if he is ask him out for drinks on you.
I’m seeing this guy and have been for almost 2 months. In the beginning I noticed messages on his phone from another girl to which he said she liked him but she was just a friend, now two months down the line I’ve noticed she’s been ringing his phone and he refuses to pick up when I’m around because ‘it’s rude’. The other day I found out that this girl is his ex who he says he broke up with her 2 months before we met but now I don’t really know whether to trust what he says, we did have sex very early on so now j suspect I’m being for sex while he try’s to get back with his ex. He’s told me he loves me and wants to be with me but I think he’s just saying this because he thinks it’s what i want to hear. Do I just leave him to deal with his ex or am I overreacting
28. November 2015
Throughout the dating period with him, she’s been in the picture and that’s because there’s still a lot more going on between him and his ex. I don’t think you’re overreacting, you’re just paying attention to something that has happened quite often I’d advise you to bounce.
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