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Hi. I’m about to lose the girl I love and I don’t know what to do. I was going through a very difficult time and I’m not one to open up so instead I broke up with her because I realised I was taking out my stress & anger on her and she didn’t deserve that at all. Although we broke up, we still spoke everyday and the feelings were clearly still there. We had an argument one day and I said some extremely hurtful things that I can’t even excuse myself for. I was hurt, my life was spiralling and I took it out on her. Now I’m just overcoming my issues and it’s so clear this girl is the one for me, but she’s lost faith in the relationship due to the things I said and the way I broke up with her. Plz help Me, what can I do?
21. December 2015
Hi Oloni, so I’ve been sexing a friend of mine. He’s the only person I’ve ever had sex with although we’re not and never have been anymore than good friends. Two things; whenever we have sex he always makes sure to wear a condom, we’ve only had sex without a condom once (when he took my virginity) how do I tell him I wanna have sex without a condom again, do I suggest that I go on the pill etc or…? & secondly, a lot of the time he treats me like his girl and I feel like I don’t like that he does bcus I’m not his girl, we just good friends – what do I do about this ?
21. December 2015
Have a conversation about contraception if you’re positive you want to start having casual sex with him. The pill is a great idea, but I would suggest you carry on using a condom. I’d also advise you both get checked up if you’ve had sex without protection before. As for being treated as if you’re his partner? You need to also discuss where things are heading romantically, to have a better understanding of the dynamics of the relationship.
Hi Oloni. Do you have any advice on what to do for a one year anniversary. Our pockets aren’t the biggest. But do you know of anything that we could do? Would London be a good idea? Thank youu
21. December 2015
Try a museum, a concert of my personal fav?.. Hip hop karaoke. It’s cheap affordable and always a great night.
My boyfriend has a lot of females associates and admits it, I’m not comfortable with it ; what do you think I should do?
21. December 2015
It’s best you speak to him about it. However, associates aren’t friends, so what’s the problem?
My boyfriend likes talking dirty in bed which I like too but one thing I’m not comfortable with is him wanting me to call him the n-word. I’m not black so I really don’t want to but he won’t drop it and insists its his fantasy. How can I make him realise he can’t convince me to say it and just leave it alone?
17. December 2015
Have conversation outside of the sheets and let him know that it makes you very uncomfortable.
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