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The choice of whether to leave or stay is entirely up to you. However my opinion on the matter is that you should be selfish. You’ve been granted a great opportunity, something you worked for, something you earned and in no way shape or form should this be compromised. You mentioned it yourself he isn’t your husband, however it is IMPORTANT you discuss it with him, discuss out of respect and to let him know this is something you’re thinking about doing.. not discuss to the point that he decides whether you move left or right, if you get my drift. As for the other things you’ve mentioned about your boyfriend, he sounds a bit controlling and possessive, don’t you think? Remember he doesn’t own you, so never let him tell you how to dress or where to go, that’s really not on. The truth is if you believe he’s holding you back due to not being on the same page in terms of progress, be realistic with yourself.

Oloni

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Hey lovely,

I’m so sorry to hear this. My heart dropped at the end. As painful as this may be to read some guys just don’t have any natural game, we call them losers, those are the guys who sell dreams or do the most in order to get what they want from a girl because they have no hopes of getting anywhere with a girl by being honest. He had no intention of taking you seriously let alone seeing you again. Now you’re pregnant. Unfortunately I can’t tell you what to do with that pregnancy, it’s simply not my place. But what I will suggest is that you go to a clinic and discuss your options, I would advise you also go to a trusted family member or friend with your situation, you need all the support you can get. If you plan to inform him, inform him when you know what you are going to do. Don’t do anything you do not feel comfortable doing just to please or keep him, think very carefully about each potential decision and understand that either way you look at it it won’t be easy but with a great support system (including counselling) you will get through it in time. Don’t do anything that you’re likely to regret. Hope this helps. Sending love your way.

Ebi

Hey,

My view on breaks has changed over the years. I don’t see the problem, sometimes you need space and need to be able to work things out without having someone in your space and sometimes you both need space to grow, especially if you discover that for one reason or another, you’re both standing in the way of each other. Do it out of love though, no bitterness and be very clear about the boundaries (if any) to avoid adding more problems to your current situation.

-Ebi

Over 2000, now what were you saying again?

Ebi