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Hey dear, going by what you feel alone, it might be time to have that conversation with him. But first ask yourself how long you’ve felt like this for? What exactly you need ‘more’ of, so that can help identify what it is you’re searching for at this point of your life. 6 years is a very long time, so I have no doubt your love for him is strong, but is love ever enough when it comes to relationships? Oloni Yes he does need to put some immediate respeck on it. You have to talk to him about it, and start off with the foundation of your relationship … ‘Baby I don’t think an effort is being made in the way I hoped it would have, how can resolve things?’ – Then move on to the girl he followed and allow him to know you’re uncomfortable with it. I’m sure he’ll be more than happy to unfollow. Oloni Hey love, if you haven’t actually cheated I think it’s just his ego that’s slightly bruised because you had sex between the time you weren’t together. What are you apologising for? Having sex whilst single? There isn’t much you can do though, if he can’t trust you, is there any point in continuing the relationship? Oloni Hey girl. It sounds like you’re quite insecure and it’s perfectly fine, you can’t help how you feel and I completely understand it. I feel like this is a conversation you should have with your partner however. Communicate this to him so he’s aware of your thoughts and feelings. Don’t leave him in the dark or else that will only harm things more. Good luck, and remember to try and not compare you boyfriends past to his present. One of the aims of your relationship is to try and create memories and more experiences together..so do that, he’s all yours! Oloni READ: 5 Things You Should Know Before Getting Your First Smear Test Hey love, first off just want to say congratulations for getting yourself clean for 6 months and finding a job. That’s a massive achievement and you should be very proud of yourself. As for your relationship, hun you and I both know that this has gone past repair. The relationship is extremely unhealthy and toxic and you need to get out of it, especially since you mentioned that things get physical. I understand you want to help and support him, but can you really do all those things if he doesn’t want it for himself? It’s pointless. You’re in a codependent relationship. I would urge that you ask him to seek professional help at this point and leave it at that. Sometimes in life you have to be selfish with yourself and know when to walk away, know when enough is enough, know that if you keep yourself around old and bad habits you may slowly find your way back there again. I really do hope your partner gets the help he deserves. Oloni
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