So I was with my ex for nearly two years. Me and him was good throughout our relationship until the last couple months before our relationship was basically hanging. When I first met him he was a broke and had no ambition. And I done my best to motivate him by doing up is CV, giving him money for essential needs. And now he’s saying he needs to focus on him future without me but now is with another girl… and I still have his stuff in my house, what should I do?
30. November 2016
Give it back? If you do something from the heart you have to be prepared for the outcome with or without you.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I cheated on my boyfriend last night and I feel bad. I don’t want to tell him but I want to forgive myself and move on from the situation. I was very drunk and I’ve never done that before. I am afraid of the person I become when I’m intoxicated. Please advise me
30. November 2016
This sounds a bit unfair doesn’t it? You cheated and you want to move on and forgive yourself? What about the person you were actually disloyal to? I have no advice for you, because you’ve made up your mind about how you will handle the situation.
One thing however, if you’re afraid of the person you become when you’re drunk…then dont drink.
Oloni
When I was younger I stupidly caught and sti. Got symptoms so got untreated right away. Years later I’m in a serious relationship. Been together nearly 2 years and I don’t use contraception. He always pulls out before he cums. I haven’t gotten pregnant. How much of a chance is it I am infertile because of having chlamydia for a few weeks? I’m really worried.
30. November 2016
The withdrawal method isn’t a form of contraception so please start using condoms unless you’re trying to get pregnant. Many people have been treated for STI’s and are still able to have children so I wouldn’t worry about being infertile. I also think it’d be sensible to get another check up.
Oloni
A few years ago I met this guy and clicked instantly with him. After a couple of days getting to know him I found out he had a girlfriend. We carried on being friends as normal and would even say he wanted me to meet her. One day he wanted to hang out so I met up with him. We ended up having sex. After he said it can’t happen again but it did for over a year until I found a really nice genuine guy. I cut off all contact with the first guy. Until he messaged me almost a year after we stopped talking to say he missed me and wanted to see me and show me his daughter when she’s born!!!! Understandable I freaked a bit and my feelings got all confused. I haven’t seen him but we talk and he try’s to convince me to see him saying he misses me still. I miss him too but happy in my relationship. I’m torn before my lust for the old guy and my love for my boyfriend. It’s very difficult for me to let this guy go
30. November 2016
It just sounds like you’re being selfish if I’m honest. If you’re in love with someone, lust with someone else should not be a factor or have you pondering on whether or not you should meet up with with an ex-flame.
Oloni
Oloni i messed up!! I have been seeing this guy for two months, I know it’s not a long time but he was literally so different to any guy i have been with before. He was so caring and attentive, constantly telling me how beautiful he thought I was and how much he liked me and was so keen to introduce me to all hid friends and family. Anyway long story short I went out to a club with him and his friends and ended up getting WAAY too drunk and acting like a complete idiot. I shouted at him in the club for no reason, then cried about it and worst of all i broke in to his house at the end of the night, as in broke the door to his apartment to get in (probably the worst thing i have ever done). I really don’t know what happened to me because i am honestly never usually like that but I acted like a complete psychopath and scared him off. I appologised so much and he’s a really genuine guy so he answered my messages and said it was alright and he’s over it. But i know he’s not, he’s acting completely different- doesn’t want to hang out, keeping the conversations to small talk and just being generally really distant. Of course I understand how unacceptable my behaviour was and he has every right to be upset, but it was going so well before i just want things to go back to how they were. Do you think there is anything I can do to make this better? Or is it a lost cause and I should move on with my life?
30. November 2016
Yeahhh this was a bit scary, you damaged his property and that’s not okay hun.
I would suggest you ask to meet up with him and have a one to one chat, to see if he’s still interested in dating you. If he still gives awkward replies or avoids meeting up, just know you have to let this one go. You don’t want to be with someone who you feel like you’re forcing to talk to you.
Oloni
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