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Hi Oloni, I have been with my bf for 3 years. We recently went out to dinner for our anniversary and he told me to get what I want(I am considerate with price since we are both in college). My meal was under $10, so I asked if he wanted to share dessert. He said yes so I ordered one that was $5. He looks at me crazy in front of the waitress, which embarrassed me, and started complaining and chastising me for ordering an “expensive” dessert. Let’s just say dinner was quiet. I love him, but that he was rude and being a cheap ass. What should I do?
21. December 2016
Have a conversation about it. Tell him you were embarrassed and next time discuss the dinner budget so this doesn’t happen again.
Oloni
Hi oloni, me and my sons father have started being intimate again. We talk about the future, marriage, buying a home and more children. He says he wants to marry me in the future but not be with me right now because he doesn’t want to hurt me but how should I take this? I’m in love with him and want to be with him NOW but he’s not committed now. Am I right to ‘wait’ for him and the future I want while he does what he wants right now or should I just live my life and if we get back together we do. Even though we aren’t together right now I feel like the sex has complicated things and I’m being hurt anyway
21. December 2016
Hey hun, sleeping with anyone you have emotions for will always become complicated. What the father of you child is saying, is that he wants to be free and single instead of being in a commitment. It’s your choice to wait, but how long exactly will you be waiting for? He wants to have his cake and return to you after eating it all which seems unfair especially if he knows you want much more.
I’d suggest you stop sleeping with him and to live your own life as your feelings will only grow. Keep it strictly about the child you both love and move on from him.
Oloni
Hi Auntie Angel, please help. We’ve waited till our wedding night to have intercourse. She seems wet enough but says letting me in is painful. Do you have any helpful tips please ? Also, she seems to find lubes “peppery” we tried a flavored one by durex and ky jelly and had to wash both off. Is this because she’s not used such in the past ? Are there alternatives ? I’ll be very grateful to receive any guidance you can provide.
21. December 2016
Hey love, try a water based lube and go to an adult store where a sales assistant can help you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni.. I recently split up with my parter of 5 years as we would argue literally every other month due to the fact I would catch him speaking to someone inappropriately or to a “friend” of many years claiming he misses her etc.. now you’re probably wondering why I stayed. And it’s because every time he would convince me he would change and that he doesn’t mean it. Last month I caught him again so I blocked him off everything.. he came to my house crying his eyes out saying he wasn’t being a man and that he did not value me and cannot live his life without me. However, I just can’t trust him again even though I love him dearly. Do I work on my trust or is it too late 🙁
21. December 2016
It’s been five years, I honestly don’t think he wants to change. He just wants to have you as an option, his favourite option. He’s done it several times so exactly why the water works now? He’s trying his luck girl. Let this go, or else you’ll get used to it and stay.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I love your site and everything you stand for! I was seeing this guy (he was my first) and it didn’t work out because are from different religions. How do I move on from him? Thanks x
21. December 2016
Thank you so much for your kind words. I answer how to move on from dating someone in my latest eBook, Dear Oloni. Get it HERE
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