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Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. I love him and we’re at uni together at the moment. We pretty much live together and though I like it, sometimes it’s a bit much. He does have his own place but we find that we spend most (all) our time and nights at my place. It’s started to make me fall behind on work, my social life with my other friends, and our relationship a bit boring. How can I tell him to move on out and give me some space, and re-spice our relationship?
11. December 2016
Hey hun, what you’re asking for doesn’t seem ridiculous but I can understand why you might be hesitant. I think you need to have a conversation with him and let him know exactly what’s crossing your mind. Try it over dinner and see how he feels about it. It could be something that he’s thought about, but shoved to the back of his head.
Oloni.
Hi Oloni. I recently came to some information about a friends siblings husband cheating. There is proof, it is not made up. I (we all) know the person it has happened with. Am I in the right for trying to stay out of it and not saying anything? Baring in mind I see them often. If I was to mention it to the wife how would I also go about it without having to name drop and also kind of keep myself out of it? If I was in her position I’d want to know but I’m also weary on getting myself involved. Their family has been through a lot already. (They have been married for nearly two years now but he’s had a record in cheating well before they got married)
11. December 2016
Please stay out of it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, Is it normal to not enjoy sex? In my head when i think about it, its hot and great but in reality it just isn’t. If it’s not normal, then what do you suggest? anon pls.
11. December 2016
It could be caused by the fact that it’s glamourised heavily, but you may just not enjoy it. You could be on a journey of figuring out exactly what you enjoy when it comes to sex. It’s good that you’re honest with your feelings, but please don’t for a second believe you’re not normal, you are.
Oloni
Hey oloni! How can you tell if your FWB wants more?
11. December 2016
‘I think I’m interested in more than being more than FWB’s’
Oloni
Hi Oloni how do you feel about flirting on instagram when things aren’t official yet? The guy I’m ‘talking” to keeps doing it with girls and tries to pass it off as ‘just instagram’. For me I feel like it indicates that he’s not serious? Or is it ‘just instagram?
11. December 2016
Eeek I can see why it would irritate you, but if he’s not committed to you, he can do what he wants. However, if that’s his response when you bring it to his attention is sort of paints a picture of how he could be in a relationship.
Oloni
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