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My younger sister is obsessed with dating older men, she thinks she is mature etc but when I ask her what could she logically bring to a relationship with a man in their 30s she can’t say anything. I have tried to highlight to her that she is still in education, about to go to university, and that she cannot offer a man in that age range anything. She has no money of her own, no culinary skills, no travel experience, no great life experience. I’ve told her all older men in that situation want is sex but she refuses to see it. Why is she so naive and how can I wake her up?
11. December 2016
If your sister is involved with older men, when she’s too young you need to report her to your parents and go the police about these men. You’ve spoken to her and she refuses to listen so now it;s time to act like big sis and take thins into your own hands. It’s illegal for 30 yo men to be associating themselves with young girls like that.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now after 4 months of ‘talking’ and it’s going great. We have amazing communication and have a very exciting sexual bond. My issue is that he had some financial trouble due to a delayed payment at his job and I lent him money (was my idea). I’m second guessing my choice now and scared that I’m trusting him too soon, especially with money stuff! I know he has a solid career and is responsible enough to have been supporting his family for years, and I do pretty okay financially so it wasn’t a strain on me. However, I know if it were one of my girlfriends in this situation, I would have advised her to be supportive emotionally but to never invest her hard-earned money in any man, especially in a relationship this young. Am I placing my brain in my pussy and not thinking straight? Or am I overthinking this and have developed trust issues?
4. December 2016
Hey love!! I discuss women lending their partners money in my eBook I just released titled, Dear Oloni. I think you should get it as I spoke on this quite a lot. Get it HERE.
Oloni
Hey oloni , for a few months now my boyfriend and I have been having fights cause I don’t open up to him but it’s really not my fault cause I feel like he judges everything I do. We were cool for a while then we started having fights again , just recently I found out he has been texting some girl for months now , sexual stuff and I don’t know what to do. He says he’s not cheating but isn’t that cheating on it’s own ? What should I do ? Like I didn’t trust him before , now am I gonna trust him now?
4. December 2016
Just because his dick didnt get penetrated, doesn’t mean he didn’t cheat. Don’t allow him to fool you for goodness sake. Texting sexual things to someone outside of a monogamous relationship is cheating. It’s now up to you to decide what you want to do.
Oloni
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now he was my first but he gave me herpes, it was hard but I didn’t mind because I thought we’d always be together but now I no longer feel as strongly as I did for him. I feel like the main reason I’m with him is because I don’t think I’ll be able to be with other people because of my situation.
4. December 2016
Hey hun! There are plenty of people living with incurable STI’s. In fact I answer a dilemma similar to yours in my new eBook Dear Oloni grab it quickly HERE
What I will say is, if this relationship isn’t for you let him go. It’s such an unhealthy decision to stay with someone because you feel you won’t find someone else, no matter what your circumstances are.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been talking to this guy for about 3 months now and we get along really well. I love his personality and feel like we just get each other. The relationship is long distance however. He is in Leeds and I’m in London for university. As such we don’t see each other often especially being that I work part time on weekends so don’t have time to go back to Leeds to see him. My dilemma is that I don’t find him physically attractive at all. However I love him as a person and enjoy talking to him so much. I feel confused with my feelings. He has made his feelings towards me very clear but I don’t know if I feel the same. Am I being shallow? Should I look past the exterior? Should we just be friends or could there be something more despite lack of physical attraction.
4. December 2016
Heya hun, a lot of people have grown to be attracted to their partners, so this could be one of those scenarios. It doesn’t make you shallow, because at the end of the day you have to be attracted to who you’re dating. If i were you I’d take my time but also make arrangements to meet up more, regardless of your busy schedule. Only so you can mane you’re own decision.
Oloni
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