Hey hun, that’s such an odd position to be in. Can they really judge him from one occasion? Speak to your fam and ask what makes them feel that way. However, I wouldn’t terminate a relationship if I was truly happy.

Oloni

Hey love, you can communicate without making a guy feel like he’s doing a crap job. I’m not saying you need to put the kettle on and sit down with him saying ‘You’re really not doing it for me between the sheets’. Instead just before foreplay, direct him and say something like, ‘do you know what I really like? When you do this more or this…’ Let him know what pleases you, tell him what you like and pray that he listens lol!

Oloni

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Now this is a complex one! If there was no abuse going on I’d honestly tell you to stay out of it and let the pair of them deal with their own relationship drama. However, when any sort of abuse comes into the picture, you have to raise your voice and say something in my opinion.

Just because she’s not being physically harmed doesn’t make her scenario any less serious. If what she’s saying is true, then your friend who you wanted to be loyal to is honestly a POS. That’s not how loyalty works especially if you’ve befriended both people. When one becomes abusive, the word loyalty doesn’t even come into the picture.

Speak up and let her know what her boyfriend said. Hopefully it will give her the push to leave him. However do not expect your friendship with the guy to be all honky dory afterwards, he will be annoyed, but understand that his friendship is not more important than his girlfriends sanity.

Oloni

Do you need me to tell you he’s not interested?

Oloni

First thing’s first, you need to tell your girlfriend about the new pregnancy. You messed up when you thought going to the house of the girl your girlfriend wasn’t fond of was a good idea. Her inviting you around should have been a triggering moment despite how platonic your relationship was. Regardless, what’s done is done and you have to deal with the reality of things. It’s up to your girlfriend to decide on whether or not she wants to stay with you, you lost the chance to have the normal break up and ‘let’s see how it goes if we get back together’ the moment you cheated.

I don’t even think your focus should be on making sure you don’t lose her, but simply telling her the news followed by several heart felt apologies. You have a child your bringing into this world, that should be your main concern.

Oloni