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Hi oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now and at the beginning he was quite broke and I wouldn’t complain I would help. I was very supportive As I know men can get disheartened when they feel as though they can’t provide. I always payed on dates and stuff and he would when he could . He’s recently been employed and now he’s forgotten all I’ve done for him when he was unemployed. Basically he’s just very stingy with his money now that he has it when I was never like that towards him. What should I do???
14. November 2016
Eeek! What a pickle. First, remember when you do favours for people never expect anything back because that’s called business, not a favour love.
However your frustration makes sense, being stingy is such a nasty trait and one you need to talk to him about. Express how some of his recent actions have made you feel, but don’t come with an angle of ‘When your ass was broke, who fed you?’ – lol. Approach him off the fact that needs to not be so tight as it’s very off putting for any woman.
If he still carries on and you don’t notice an effort of change being made, it then becomes your decision to stay or not.
Good luck
Oloni
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Hey Oloni! In Sep i told you about this guy i met online and how we kept going on mini dates and kissing and stuff! Today officially marks our 2 month anniversary and we’re still in the early stages but we get along soooo well. He’s come and visit me at uni and we talk every day, we get along sooooo well. I have doubted the relationship because we’re so different but it works somehow, i just wanted to say thank you so much for your message and the fact that you take time to answer these dilemmas and make blog posts. He’s taking me to one of the igloo dining spheres that have popped up near the thames next month. I’ll tell you how it goes xx
14. November 2016
Aww this message brightened up my evening. I actually remember you writing in too. Thank you for your lovely words and I’m glad to hear it worked out well! Please do keep me updated
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I slept with my guy best friend, back in may, that I’ve always had feelings for and vice verse since we were kids. Since then both our feelings intensified but of recent he’s been really on to me about sex and I said no because I felt like I was now beginning to be used for it. I stopped talking about sex and anything related to it for a while to see how he would react and he stopped talking to me all together lol. But I really really miss my best friend, what should I do ?
14. November 2016
You need to give your friendship a break hun. Sometimes situations like these cause a huge change in the dynamics of the relationship you once had. When you’re ready reach out to him, have a conversation about it and hopefully you can rebuild things fro there.
Oloni
Hi Oloni! So I met this guy through IG and he lives in another state. He is very attractive and we hit it of the first few days of texting. But then he began replaying very slowly, sometimes even taking a whole day to get back to me. He has a 1 year old and he is 21 (I’ve never minded the men I date to have children) and he claims he works and sleeps a.l lot. However we have been talking about meeting one day and fucking each other silly. Is it weird or odd to meet someone on IG or any social media platform and meet up with them to then just have sex ?? IM 22 btw.
14. November 2016
There’s so much going on in this dilemma, but to answer the last question. No, there’s nothing wrong with meeting people off social media as long as you’re safe about it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I recenlty brought my boyfriend of 1 year to a family wedding. He met my family and they hated him, to point the that they want me to break up with him. I know love is blind so do you think they are seeing something i’m not seeing?
14. November 2016
Hey hun, that’s such an odd position to be in. Can they really judge him from one occasion? Speak to your fam and ask what makes them feel that way. However, I wouldn’t terminate a relationship if I was truly happy.
Oloni
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