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My sister introduced me to a guy she said was chasing her but she wasnt interested. She was actually a little obnoxious about it. I met him at a restaurant some time later and he told me it was me he likes, and he has been chasing me since. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t like him. He’s not attractive at all and clingy. But he has a lot of money to spend on me, and at this point in time, I need it. My sister doesn’t like him, but I feel like I shouldn’t encourage it. He’s been texting me since, he expects us to get together, which will never happen, but do I stay and get what I can(scammer style), or just ignore him totally.
18. October 2016
Lol leave this man and his money alone.
Oloni
Hello Oloni. I’ve been debating whether to ask you for advice but here goes. Basically, I feel so awful that I’ve slept with a guy on the first date (we are official now). He’s the third guy I’ve slept with but I literally feel like a hoe. Just couldn’t help how I felt at the time; I even initiated it to be fair and I have no idea why. He was talking about making me his girl before we even had sex, is this strange to you?
18. October 2016
I’m confused, you feel like a hoe because you chose to sleep with someone, a person you’re with? I think you’re overthinking things way too much. You initiated sex because you had sexual normal urges. This is the furthest thing away from being a slut dear.
Oloni
How should I hit up his boy? I’m really attracted to him but I’ve never been in a relationship or even the “talking” stage. I don’t want to pursue him too hard because I’m scared he’ll play me or reject me. How should I approach him? I have his number but I don’t know how to start texting him.
18. October 2016
Just text him and say ‘Hey how are you today?’
Oloni
What should I do if my boyfriend keeps accusing me of cheating when I’m not. I’ll be honest with you here there has been times he’s caught me messaging men over social media, nothing flirtatious but platonic. He got soo jealous, he refused to read the msgs (we were talking about skincare products I make) he’ll be mad for a few days/ hours then “believes” me after he’s done being mad.. But then will go right back around& say things like “‘go mess with the dudes you be messing with” blahzay blah. Part of me thinks he might be cheating if I keep getting accused over the tiniest things & part of me thinks he wants there to be a problem. So I’m confused Oloni as to what to do from this point because now it’s just getting annoying
8. October 2016
Your boyfriend is being very immature and needs to grow up. If he can’t trust you, why is he with you? In fact why are you with him? He can’t say he believes you after he’s finished sulking. He had no reason to be mad in the first place. Have a conversation with him and explain that his behaviour towards silly accusations is affecting your relationship. He might open up about something and tell you. Accusing someone of cheating doesn’t always mean theyre doing something behind closed doors, so don’t assume.. You never know he might just have a history of being played by women in the past. Regardless… He shouldn’t be in a relationship if he doesn’t know what you’re capable of doing. Also, do you REALLLY need to be having conversations about skin products via DM? I mean it’s not a big deal but unless it relates to a job, men being constantly hitting you up via DM isn’t always the greatest look. Anyway talk to him!!
oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m turning 24 this December. And I’m yet to lose my virginity. Tried recently with my boyfriend, but the pain was too intense. And I also had the feeling of my colon being full, like I wanted to use the bathroom badly. I also feel that when I’m fingered, please how do I go about fixing this?
8. October 2016
Hey darling, I’ve heard of stories of women struggling to have sex and this could be from a lack of foreplay and moistness from down below. Usually I always tell women to purchase some waterbased lube from an adult toy store.However, you’ve mentioned things that are more serious so I’d suggest you seek medical help because it could be vaginismus, book an appointment with sexual health nurse.
Oloni
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