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Dear Oloni, I was seeing this guy I met from my Uni for about 3 months, I’m a virgin and he’s always understood that and never rushed me. He always understood my personal issues but one day we argued and my girls got involved. They had a big arguement with him and now he doesn’t want to talk to him because I got my girls involved. He thinks I don’t respect him but I really care for him, what can I do.
25. December 2016
Reach out to him and ask if you could both have a conversation about what happened and see if he’d be willing to move past it. In the future be very careful with who you allow your friends to be around especially potential love interests.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my partner now for nearly 3 years. I love him to death he’s my world. His parents are from Zimbabwe, I stayed with them for a few months last year. They kicked me out and kept saying it’s not a culture thing but in their culture they would never allow this to happen. I told them to “shut up” as my partner and his parents where shouting over one another they turned on me and started screaming.i haven’t been back or spoken to them since January this year. My partner keeps saying be the bigger person and apologise I keep saying I’ve tried but his mum won’t meet up without her husband there and it has to be under their roof. I don’t wan that I’d rather it be in a public place so no one can scream at the other. But his mum won’t. He keeps telling me to be the bigger person and apologise but how can I when she won’t meet up? He keeps saying if I really wanted to apologise I’d go to her house? I don’t think I have anything to apologise for. What do you think?
25. December 2016
You told his parents to shut up. You have A LOT to apologise for, you were extremely disrespectful. You’re lucky, they’re giving you the option of returning back to their house. Other parents wouldn’t even want to hear your name being said in their house. This is your decision, but I agree with your boyfriend.
Oloni
I have a 1 year old son and live with the mother but I am miserable. I have tried everything to make it work not just for the sake of our child but because I love her but she is just so controlling and manipulative and miserable to be around all the time. I don’t know what to do. I want to stay and make it work but it seems like the only time we are both happy enough for the environment to not be toxic is when we are apart.
25. December 2016
Hey love, it sounds like you’ve tried to be there and make it work, but now you’re emotionally draining yourself. I think it’d be sensible if you had a conversation with the mother of your child and voice how you feel.
Oloni
I found out that my boyfriend took another girl out to dinner and posted it on his snapchat (he blocked me on my account so i used a fake account to add him and saw his story). I feel like it’s a clear sign that he’s cheated but i don’t want to accuse without solid evidence… How would you suggest i approach this “talk” with my man. Also i should note that he has never posted me on his social media
24. December 2016
Umm the fact he blocked you and went out to dinner is hard evidence. These are clearly not signs from a faithful person, so confront him and let his behind go. He posted another woman BUT YOU haven’t even seen the back camera of his phone…listen.
Oloni
Hi, basically i was seeing someone for a few months and i can honestly say that i had deep feelings for her, but recently we had a fight and shit happened so we ended up calling it a day, i still think about her occasionally i cant lie, since the time we stopped talking i have slept with other women but it just doesn’t feel the same, like i don’t enjoy it at all even though the sex isn’t bad, what advice can you give me
24. December 2016
What you do with other people when you’re not in a relationship is your business. If you know you’re actually serious about the woman, call her and tell the lady how you feel.
Oloni
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