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Started talking to this guy off tinder.. we hit it off really. We’re both Nigerian and vibes really well. We were planning to meet up but every time he would make an excuse.. then out of nowhere he disappears for like 2 weeks. Doesn’t respond to me text or calls at all. Then calls me at 2am as if nothing is wrong. I asked him where has he been and he just tells me he’s going through personal things (which he won’t discuss with me) and that he has been working. I’ve lost interest because of all this but he continues to hmu and a part of me wants to see where this goes but I don’t want him to waste my time again.
30. December 2016
He’s wasting your time now, let this go.
Oloni
I have never been sexually attracted to a female (I am female), of course I’ve thought another woman is pretty like we all do, but nothing more. Genuinely I am only interested in men and the thought of going with a woman does nothing for me but whenever I watch porn I can only get off to woman on woman activity, nothing else interests me. Is this normal
30. December 2016
Yeah, it’s normal i personally know some women who only enjoy lesbian porn even though they’re straight.
Oloni
I cheated on my boyfriend but it didn’t mean anything and i was quite drunk. Should I tell him. It was just a kiss infact a terrible one and i regret it so much
30. December 2016
Hey hun, i think you should tell him. It’s unfair to keep this sort of info away from him.
Oloni
oloni i found out that my boyfriend cheated in the first couple of months of our relationship. i found out through snapchat (similar situation to the girl who said her man took out a babe for dinner) however when i asked him about where he went he said he was with his mates. knowing what i knew and that he was lying i decided to not confront him about it and continue our relationship as normal as i’m already overly invested and love him. the issue now is that i feel like it haunts our relationship and i can’t vouch that he hasn’t cheated again. i really want to tell him that i know but i don’t want to cause an argument about the past and we have progressed so much since then in our relationship. my question is, do i bring it up and risk jeopardising what we have or continue to keep quiet pretending i don’t know that he cheated even though it crosses my mind all the time?
28. December 2016
Hey,
Why are you this anxious to state how you feel if you’ve supposedly progressed so much? Have you really progressed or are you telling yourself that? A relationship that is constantly haunted isn’t a progressive one in my opinion, you’re simply masking it’s true state and it’s proving counter-productive as nothing has been addressed. What exactly is your plan of action? Will there be consequences? You confronted a liar once before and he lied, why does he need to know you know in order to give you the respect of telling you the truth? What peace do you have in your situation if you constantly question whether or not he is loyal? You cannot jeopardise what has already been jeopardised so have a plan of action and speak up, you’re the victim here not him.
Ebi
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The guy I’m dating said to me “you’re way too good for me ” maybe it’s me overthinking but doesn’t that mean he wants to end things ?
28. December 2016
Hey,
Not necessarily, it could be anything from he knows he ain’t shit (guilty conscience) to his insecurities speaking or he may just be so grateful to be your man. It could be anything. Best bet is to ask him how he feels about you and your relationship and if there’s anything he would like to say, just to ensure you’re both on the same page. This doesn’t ensure honesty but it’s all you can do right about now. Just be attentive, not anxious.
Ebi
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