Dear Oloni omg i’m having a similar problem as the girl whose man makes her pay for his products. Basically my bf is an F boy (fraud) and he can deets (use someone else card to purchase things online) items etc. But when he deets me something for example a handbag (let’s say £500) he’ll give it to me his gf for £250 even though he basically got it for free because it wasn’t his money. He says it’s supporting his “hustle” but sometimes i feel like he’s trying to sell to me like i’m one of his customers. Even with things like Uber he will say pay half price (£20) if the journey is £40. It’s embarrassing when i’m with my friends because they expect us to get the Uber for free because he’s my man. I’ve always been shy to bring this up with him … What do I say and a how can I start this conversation without sounding rude??
30. December 2016
I can’t believe you wrote this in and think it’s okay. Please do not abuse my service because a fraud boy isn’t giving you what you want.
Oloni
How important is it to post your partner on social media because my bf hasn’t even posted my fingernail and we’ve been together for quite some time now. I’m not popular or big on social media but he is. Because of this I feel like I don’t want him to appear single to other females online. He posts our dates, getaways and outings but he’ll never show that he’s with me. I haven’t really posted him either because of it (just the his head or arms). I don’t want to be like “post me post me” but admittedly it bothers me, is this privacy or secrecy? Do you think I should talk to him about how I feel and if so how? I don’t know if I’m just over thinking.
30. December 2016
It really depends on how your partner uses their social media and what it’s for. If he posts other parts of his life, such as friends and family, then I understand your conundrum.
Another thing is that social media never defines someones relationship status. Men and women can post photos together hashtagged with #couplegoals but entertain people via DM.
Ultimately, it bothers you and it makes sense, when you’re in a relationship you want to be shown off once in a while… so TALK to him. He’s your boyfriend and should understand how you feel.
Oloni
Started talking to a guy I met on twitter shortly after breaking it off with a guy I was dating. Anyway I’m a very sexually open person and it turns out he is too. I’ve sent him a few booty and titty shots (without my face) and we’ve been speaking for a while and have a lot in common but he hasn’t spoken about going on a date but wants to take me to a hotel to have sex? Might be a stupid question really but what should I do? Seeing as I do want a relationship with him.
30. December 2016
Decline his invite and suggest an alternative idea, like a date.
Oloni
I NEED YOUR HELP! I went on a date last night with a guy I met online. We’d been speaking for a few weeks and hit it off instantly, I could tell how keen he was and I was feeling so great about it. But then the cocktails led to wine and the wine led to me thinking I’m a pornstar and the next thing I know I’m giving him a blowjob (in his house mind, I wasn’t feeling freaky enough to do so in public). Anyway cool seems like nada but then this morning he was really grouchy. Is this a male morning go away and leave me be thing or did I go too far too quick and has he lost interest? He’s text me today and seems cool but I can’t help but read too far into it ?
30. December 2016
You could be thinking about it too deeply. Relax and allow yourself to make your own judgement after more time spent together. If you still feel a way, address it.
Oloni
My boyfriend messages girls that are friends, yet deletes the messages. I’ve seen it a few times and he will excuse the situation or make it seem innocent. Help
30. December 2016
Either your boyfriend or the girls he’s messaging are saying something inappropriate OR he’s deleting things he believes you will fuss about and look too deep into. Speak to him, cus either way it’s still dodgy.
Oloni
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