I NEED YOUR HELP! I went on a date last night with a guy I met online. We’d been speaking for a few weeks and hit it off instantly, I could tell how keen he was and I was feeling so great about it. But then the cocktails led to wine and the wine led to me thinking I’m a pornstar and the next thing I know I’m giving him a blowjob (in his house mind, I wasn’t feeling freaky enough to do so in public). Anyway cool seems like nada but then this morning he was really grouchy. Is this a male morning go away and leave me be thing or did I go too far too quick and has he lost interest? He’s text me today and seems cool but I can’t help but read too far into it ?
30. December 2016
You could be thinking about it too deeply. Relax and allow yourself to make your own judgement after more time spent together. If you still feel a way, address it.
Oloni
My boyfriend messages girls that are friends, yet deletes the messages. I’ve seen it a few times and he will excuse the situation or make it seem innocent. Help
30. December 2016
Either your boyfriend or the girls he’s messaging are saying something inappropriate OR he’s deleting things he believes you will fuss about and look too deep into. Speak to him, cus either way it’s still dodgy.
Oloni
Hey, I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months but we have been speaking for around 6. He has just told me that’s his ex is 4 months pregnant so he had sex with her while we was speaking. He has said it was a mistake and that his ex is refusing to abort the baby. He said he will help his ex financially and see the baby at times but still wants to work things out with me, I am heartbroken and feel betrayed. I feel as if a baby will bring them together and they will start to date again but he says that will not be the case, what do I do?
30. December 2016
Hey hun! If I’m totally honest this is still very early days for you and him. Best advice I would give, is for you to let him go.
I’m a firm believer of leaving men who are expecting a kid/just had a kid. No matter how it happened and who she is to him, this will definitely cause some sort of issues.
Let this one go and start the new year fresh.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, 3 months ago I told my FwB that I loved him during sex. It kinda just slipped out and I felt so awkward at first but to my surprise, he responded with “I’m glad you do” and later sent a text saying “I love you more”. I thought we were finally making progress, but till this date, we’re still in the same routine – he picks me up, we have great sex, he drops me home. He’s a lovely guy, I adore him, but I’m starting to think that he just enjoys having me wrapped around his finger. We’ve been FwB for 2 years and don’t get me wrong I’ve loved every minute of it but we’re not getting any younger lol. I’m looking for a companion to marry, have kids with etc, not just sex. Do you think it’s time for me to let him go? 🙁
30. December 2016
Anything said during sex, ESPECIALLY to a sex buddy doesn’t count. I don’t think he has you wrapped around his finger, he’s just still comitted to the arrangement you both have.
The issue here is that YOU have developed feelings for him. Either tell him or quit what you have going on before you get hurt.
Oloni
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and I’m happy with him but there’s just one thing…We always told one another that if we ever wanted to try something knew, we should speak on it and try it because we try to please one another. And that’s it exactly what I did. Because I’m tired on doing the same old same old, it’s beginning to make me very unattracted towards him sexually. I really don’t know what to do at this point. The sex isn’t the same..the head isn’t the same it just overall sucks. I literally have to fake my moans and it sucks. I mean, I can only vocalize how I feel so much it’s driving me to the point where I’m started to ask myself “Should I just cheat on him? But stay with him since I do love him?”
30. December 2016
Hey hun, if you’ve spoken about it before with him, it’s time to take action together. There are many ways you can help improve your sex life… cheating isn’t one of them. The fact that this is even an option to you is somewhat worrying and leads to me to actually wonder if your heart is truly commited.
Oloni
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