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Hi Oloni, Is it normal to not enjoy sex? In my head when i think about it, its hot and great but in reality it just isn’t. If it’s not normal, then what do you suggest? anon pls.
11. December 2016
It could be caused by the fact that it’s glamourised heavily, but you may just not enjoy it. You could be on a journey of figuring out exactly what you enjoy when it comes to sex. It’s good that you’re honest with your feelings, but please don’t for a second believe you’re not normal, you are.
Oloni
Hey oloni! How can you tell if your FWB wants more?
11. December 2016
‘I think I’m interested in more than being more than FWB’s’
Oloni
Hi Oloni how do you feel about flirting on instagram when things aren’t official yet? The guy I’m ‘talking” to keeps doing it with girls and tries to pass it off as ‘just instagram’. For me I feel like it indicates that he’s not serious? Or is it ‘just instagram?
11. December 2016
Eeek I can see why it would irritate you, but if he’s not committed to you, he can do what he wants. However, if that’s his response when you bring it to his attention is sort of paints a picture of how he could be in a relationship.
Oloni
My younger sister is obsessed with dating older men, she thinks she is mature etc but when I ask her what could she logically bring to a relationship with a man in their 30s she can’t say anything. I have tried to highlight to her that she is still in education, about to go to university, and that she cannot offer a man in that age range anything. She has no money of her own, no culinary skills, no travel experience, no great life experience. I’ve told her all older men in that situation want is sex but she refuses to see it. Why is she so naive and how can I wake her up?
11. December 2016
If your sister is involved with older men, when she’s too young you need to report her to your parents and go the police about these men. You’ve spoken to her and she refuses to listen so now it;s time to act like big sis and take thins into your own hands. It’s illegal for 30 yo men to be associating themselves with young girls like that.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now after 4 months of ‘talking’ and it’s going great. We have amazing communication and have a very exciting sexual bond. My issue is that he had some financial trouble due to a delayed payment at his job and I lent him money (was my idea). I’m second guessing my choice now and scared that I’m trusting him too soon, especially with money stuff! I know he has a solid career and is responsible enough to have been supporting his family for years, and I do pretty okay financially so it wasn’t a strain on me. However, I know if it were one of my girlfriends in this situation, I would have advised her to be supportive emotionally but to never invest her hard-earned money in any man, especially in a relationship this young. Am I placing my brain in my pussy and not thinking straight? Or am I overthinking this and have developed trust issues?
4. December 2016
Hey love!! I discuss women lending their partners money in my eBook I just released titled, Dear Oloni. I think you should get it as I spoke on this quite a lot. Get it HERE.
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