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So I found out my boyfriend had dating app accounts when we first started dating, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and just told him to delete them since he had been single for a while. Like 7 months later, my single friend was browsing on plenty of fish and sends me a screenshot of my mans profile 🙂 how do I bring it up?
5. December 2017
Say “My friends saw you on plenty of fish”?
Hi Oloni, I’m 20 and at university, I’ve never really had much experience with guys I’ve kissed some on nights out and had two kind of weird sexual experiences but I’d really like to have a boyfriend now. I just want to experience having that companionship with someone. I feel like men aren’t interested in me but I put on makeup, I get dressed up I try to be approachable and talk to lots of people but I feel like no one ever makes a move. I’ve been trying quite hard so obviously this is starting to knock my confidence a bit. I just want to have some romantic experience especially as all my girls have guys now and I feel like I’m missing out.
5. December 2017
Hey thanks for writing in. It’s great that you’re making this effort, but what else are you doing? Have you tried going to different places or do you end up in the same bar every Friday night around the same people? Have you had a look at any dating apps etc?
Keep trying and have some patience.
Oloni
Oloni, what do I do. I’ve fucked everything up and our 3 year relationship is over, he’s decided. At christmas he wants to see me to say goodbye one lasat time and then it’s done. I’ve been with him since high school and almost all of my time at uni and I don’t know what to do, this guy is my best friend, my soulmate and we still love each other, however he’s decided that its 100% over and that I can’t do anything about it. I can’t move on from this. I can’t think properly or go about my days with this situation.
5. December 2017
Hey, you haven’t given me much information here. Was there a reason behind this?
Oloni
So I love my bf but lately the only time I care to be with him is if sex is involved otherwise he’s boring to me and our conversations are kind of trash. Do you think a breakup is necessary or keep trying ?
5. December 2017
Perhaps you should tell him how you feel about the relationship. He probably thinks he’s an amazing boyfriend when in your reality he isn’t. Talk and express what you’re not too keen of.
Oloni
My boyfriend has owed me £250 since July. I lent the money to him when he was in between jobs, he got one a couple of weeks later and never brought up repayment. So much times passed even I forget sometimes. I brought it up once and he said he could pay it all in a lump sum, I didn’t even ask him why, I suggested partial payments of £50 up until £250 and he refused saying that he wants to give it to me all at once. He’ll always say things like “I love how you Always have my back” so I feel guilty for even wanting it back, I sometimes feel like it is my role as his girlfriend. Recently I have really needed that money and i’m not sure how to ask or bring it up. Do you have any tips about the whole situation and how I can get my money back please?
29. November 2017
You have to talk to him about it and tell him straight. ‘I need my money back’. It’s annoying when you have to make money the topic of conversation between you and someone you care for, but it has to be done. You can’t continuously have his ‘back’ if he’s unable to stay true to his word.
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