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hi oloni me and my bf have been in a relationship for a while and it’s going well. Since we started doing it I’ve stopped masturbating just cos i haven’t felt the need to, but he still does, does this mean that I’m not satisfying him or is it normal?
23. December 2017
It’s perfectly normal
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my man and I have been together for over 2 years but his ex is still bugging. She was a huge part out of his life but I’m 100% it’s over and that he’s moved on. However she won’t let go. She herself has got a man but won’t leave mine alone. I’ve talked to her & to her man as well and I’m at loss.
21. December 2017
Why are you in contact with his ex and her bf? The only person you should be addressing is your man. If you feel like she’s getting in the way, ask your boyfriend to set boundaries as it makes you uncomfortable.
Oloni
Hello Oloni. Is allowing a guy to grind/hump his groin against yours when you are both fully clothed until he reaches his peak , considered as losing your virginity?
21. December 2017
Similar to the boogie situation that I’ve read on here my man has a slight hygiene problem. He has serious BO after sex and I don’t know what to suggest. Prior to sex etc he’s fine- his natural scent is nice, but when he starts sweating it’s all over. I don’t know how to directly say you smell. Usually I’ll suggest we shower after sex together or I’ll open the windows, but how do I tell him that his sweat stinks!! I bought some deodorant and was going to jokingly suggest he apply before we get freaky but my friends said that’s so rude. Any suggestions on what I can do.. I don’t want to hurt his ego but at the same time… surely he knows?
21. December 2017
Sex in itself, is full of it’s own scent, so it’s normal for there to be an after smell on the both of you. However, this doesn’t mean it should be “bad” stench. Talk to your boo hun, before you have sex next, just explain what you’ve noticed. Your partner, can’t and shouldn’t get mad when you communicate something regarding hygiene. It may hurt, but I’m sure he’ll be glad you told him. You cannot come and kill yourself, due to how he smells after sex. Be honest.
Oloni
Hey Oloni I thought I should update u , I was the young lady who had a child with a guy I was dating and he only gave me £130 every month and used to go to his mums so his mums house on the weekend to rave . 1 1/2 yrs later I took ur advice kicked him out , broke up with him a couple months later also called child maintenance on his ass now he gives me £140 just for having a child with him how ironic after he gave me less when we lived together I met someone else and we are engaged. It’s the best descision ever, and for him, well he works more hrs now and has cut down raving but I’m good over here living my best life . Thanks once again for all advice and u Twitter ppl are so helpful I read all ur comments and made a decision
21. December 2017
Happy to hear this, congrats!
Oloni
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