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I’m getting little help for my Wedding from fam and even bridal party.. pressure is getting much. Would it be wrong to change my bridal party?
7. January 2018
Heya hun, planning a wedding is certainly very difficult and it’s important you have people who can help you properly and not those who just want to look all dolled up in your photos.
Have a conversation with them all at once and express how you feel, it’s important they give you a hand, that’s why you chose them. See it as a warning and if nothing changes, cut them loose.
Good luck and congratulations.
Oloni
Hi Oloni! Where can I meet handsome black men to date? Tinder isn’t quite cutting it unfortunately… (I’m a black woman by the way!)
7. January 2018
Hey love, there are plenty of ways to meet men, look for events to go to (not clubbing), day time events such as brunches, try other dating apps and why not sign up to a matchmaking website?
The gym is also a good look.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. Silly question cause I probably know what the right thing to do in this situation is however I’ve recently started talking to a guy I’ve known for a few years. We get along really great as friends, he’s literally become my best friend and I’m able to talk to him literally about anything. We’ve been out on several dates & sometimes just quick outings as friends but I feel like sometimes it’s more than just a friendship. I did eventually bring this up to him as I am interested in a relationship however it’s not the be all or end all for me but he’s told me he’s not ready for one. This obvs hurt my feelings a bit so I tried to distance myself from him just to keep our friendship & not start to behave bitter about not being his gf but he puts in 10000% with me even down to the littlest things which I’ve noticed he doesn’t do with other people. Part of me is telling me to leave the situation alone as he’s voiced what it is but the other part of me feels/sees something different to what he’s telling me. I think we have an amazing friendship which I don’t wanna ruin however I really wanna see where this can take us over time. Sorry I know it’s really long basically I just need advice on whether I’m making a complete fool of myself, which I probs am lol. Thanks!x
7. January 2018
Hey hun, I know it’s hard because his actions aren’t matching up with his words, but from what you’ve described it sounds like he doesn’t want the full responsibility of having a girlfriend. So it’s not that he doesn’t like you, he just doesn’t see himself in a relationship with you, which isn’t good enough.
You have two choices, you can either settle and hang on to this half hearted love, or you try to distance yourself even more before your feelings grow even stronger.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I met a guy at work he’s so cool. He invited me around his house for a meal.. turns out when I got there, there wasn’t a hot meal waiting for me lol he used that to lure me to his house. We ended up being intimate and the session was great! Now I find that every other day he asks me ‘you wanna come round tonight?’ It’s never lets go out.. I’m not trying to be just a fuck buddy, what should I do?
7. January 2018
Never go to a guys house on the first date love. Also, express this to him, but I think he’s only interested in sex.
Oloni
Hey! So I met this guy a few months ago and he’s literally my dream man, we have so much in common and he doesn’t even know because all we do is fuck. There’s not really any other interaction, he’s clearly not looking for a relationship and that’s fine but I’m just gutted because I could be his dream girl too and some time this whole ‘fucking’ thing is going to end and I’m gonna lose my dream man all because he ain’t wanna talk lol I need to express something like this to him, do you have any tips?
7. January 2018
Heya hun, sounds like you’re super sprung on this lad and you’re probably using sex to stay close to him. If you know he’s not after a relationship, end it before it becomes a situationship.
Oloni
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