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Hi Oloni, thanks for answering my question in advance. I’m black guy that’s recently moved down to London from Middlesbrough. I went from being one of a few ethnics to one of many here and I love it lol. Basically I’m single and I wanted some tips on where I can meet and chat to single black girls as I haven’t had much luck recently. Twitter has helped me a bit and I was even able to find your platform and some podcasts which I love btw. The game here is not like up North and I feel like Londoners in general are quite rude and to themselves which is the opposite of what I’m used to so any advice you can give will help me loads.
1. February 2018
Hey love, are we really rude? Haha I apologise. There’s so many ways to meet amazing black people. You cnan try meetup.com, BYP, Bumble, Happn, eventbrite. If you’re part of the black UK twitter community, you’ll know there are always events happening so keep an eye out.
Good luck.
Oloni
Would u bring back the sex and secrets stories
1. February 2018
February 6th my love.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend of 2 years wants me to have his kids before he marries me. Btw we are both young (22&25) so we don’t wanna get married in the next 3 years. I find this very strange seeing as he is from a very conservative Yoruba family and I know that’s not how things are done. Is this a red flag or nah?
1. February 2018
Having babies before getting married really isn’t a big deal anymore. But if you feel like you’re too young and against it, then simply say, “no” and express you’d rather be married first.
Oloni
Hi Oloni!….I’d like to know after how many dates is it appropriate to go to a guy’s house?
1. February 2018
I would say three proper dates. Also give his address to friends.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. I’ve discussed how unhappy I am with my partner but nothing is changing. I am trying a lot more but it doesn’t seem to be reciprocated. Although I can see my partner is also unhappy, he keeps saying if I leave he will kill my next partner and me. I dont know how serious he is, he’s never actually physically hurt me.
1. February 2018
Hey love he’s making you a prisoner in your relationship and it’s sickening. I don’t know if he’s joking, but regardless I think you should leave. If the conversations aren’t helping, what more can you do?
Oloni
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