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Hi Oloni, so for Valentine’s Day my boyfriend didn’t want to see me, he told me February he doesn’t really wanna see me we’ve spent a lot of time together in previous months. Valentine’s Day comes and he genuinely did nothing, sent a text but he’d rather go out with his friends than spend the day with me. Also one of his ex’s has been posting pictures on snap throw back saying she misses this and also her curious cat is full of questions about them, I don’t think he’s cheating I have all his passwords a thoroughly check but I do feel like he’s losing interest it’s come to the point where I feel like I give him sex just so he stays rather than straying or being unfaithful, I don’t know what I should do please help?
16. February 2018
Hey love sex will never make a man stay, but what you should do is have a conversation with him and explain how you’ve been feeling. Your needs deserve to be met, especially if they’re reasonable.
Oloni
Been chatting to this lady. We get on well. Been on a few dates. I have an issue though. Sometimes I call her and she doesn’t answer, or call back. So I feel as though it’s more effort from my part than hers. Don’t wanna force it, plus it’s still early days (few months) and very platonic. It’s annoying. My head tells me she’s getting dicked down elsewhere. My heart tells me she’s just taking things slow and being cautious. Oloni, any advice?
12. February 2018
Hey hun, I don’t think she’s that into you.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I need help. What does it feel like to cum. I know it’s different for everyone else but just roughly? I can squirt and my partner loves it but essentially that’s just me peeing. How do I know if I’ve cum thanks
12. February 2018
So cumming essentially means reaching an orgasm. When you cum, your body feels excited. It’s a high level of euphoria that last for a couple seconds. I’d suggest masturbating, so can try to undderstand your body more.
Hi hun, I’m 18 and I’ve slept with 6 guys including my current boyfriend. I didn’t lose my virginity hella early (I was 17) but my friends make it out like I’m a hoe and it annoys me. I don’t think I’m a hoe I’m just confident with my body. So my friend who is the most vocal about my sexual activity can not keep a man. She was calling me a hoe so I stuck it on her, I said ‘ if a hoe like me can get a man, why can’t a perfect housewife like you can’t keep one?’ Now she’s not talking to me and I don’t feel like I’ve done anything wrong. What shall I do?
12. February 2018
Lol, i appreciate the clap back I do lmao. However, you’re supposed to be friends, friends shouldn’t be keeping tabs on each others vagina’s. She’s probably envious if I’m honest. Lord, it’s “What were doing at 21?” all over again.
Give eacch other some space then talk about how you’ve been feeling.
Oloni
Hey Oloni I’ve been seeing this guy for about 9 months or so. He acts as if he is my man. We go out in public, I do go to his house however Its really late. I don’t feel it is a relationship because he already has a girlfriend. We have spoken about it which he said he doesn’t like her and is waiting for her to break up with him as she’s done so much for him in the past and he will feel bad. He will say stuff like I only spend my time you etc. Which makes me feel as if what he is saying has truth but its like if you don’t like someone why stay in the relationship. Am I being stupid and naive.
12. February 2018
You are being stupid and naive. Stop talking to a guy who doesn’t have the balls to leave his girlfriend. Men who cheat are also liars, so I have no idea why you’re believing in what he’s saying.
He’s literally playing you both.
Oloni
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