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Hey! So I’ve been talking to this guy for about four weeks now he’s super sweet, caring and everything I could ask for in a guy but he isn’t all that attractive. He isn’t ugly but isn’t idris Elba either. Would I be stupid for completely dropping him ? Considering his only down fall is his looks
12. February 2018
Sounds cliche but looks truly do fade, if he’s a sweet guy, why not give him a chance? At the same time I do think attraction important, so if you still can’t get past him not being Idris, lol, don’t waste his time.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’m a virgin and I’m somewhat terrified of sex, but have been growing more curious about it lately. Any advice?
12. February 2018
Heya, it’s normal to feel scared of even curious. My advise is not to rush into ANYTHING and to do some research and perhaps talk to close friends who have explored their sexuality.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, i met this guy 2/3 weeks ago and we get on well ect and have been out on dates since and talk almost everyday. With Valentine’s Day coming up, I don’t know how to approach it kind of thing. Do I ask if we’re doing anything or just go with the flow. I’m also not expecting anything as it is so early
8. February 2018
It’s completely up to you, but in the spirit of the #ValentinesDayChallenge why not ask him?
Oloni
Hi Oloni, here is my dilemma – I am getting married in just under 4 weeks and my brother is refusing to attend. My brother cheated on his ex girlfriend who has been apart of our family for 7 years and who happens to be my maid of honour, best friend and obviously hugely apart of the wedding and ceremony. I wouldn’t want to do this without her by my side, she is also God mother to my son. The issue is, my brother wants to bring the girl he cheated on he’s ex girlfriend with to MY wedding and I refuse to have her at my wedding? He is claiming I am being overly dramatic and selfish?? Am I justified in not allowing her to attend my special day? It is also very last minute as everyone has RSPV’d and arrangements have already been made.
8. February 2018
Your brother is insane and is really the selfish one. He has no business inviting people you don’t want there. This isn’t love and hip hop the reunion, for him to invite such a guest. If they were married…just maybe. But girlfriend? No. It’s your wedding. If he wants to risk missing it for his silly new girlfriend, them honestly leave him to it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m going to surprise my man… with a lie detector test just because i want to know that the person I’m with is trustworthy. My friends are saying it’s crazy but idc I’d rather be crazy than be with a liar. Is it too much?
5. February 2018
Yes, way too much. Lie detector for what? Are you Maury?
Oloni
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