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Hi oloni. I’d been talking to this guy from last september when suddenly he stopped talking to me in december. We never went on any dates but we did talk a lot over phone/text. Then randomly the other night he called me. He said he hadn’t spoken to me in a while and wanted to see how I’m doing as he thought I ghosted him? anyways i told him how i felt and he said hes sorry if thats how i felt and he asked me to meet him the following day. Thing is, he asked me to go to his flat and he said hes okay with going out but doesnt have a lot of money. what should i do?
12. February 2018
Tell him to call you when it’s pay day. He thinks he’s slick, he’s trying to fuck you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni my boy’s girl is linking one of my other boys and doing all sorts with him. My two boys don’t know each other like that but they’ve met before through me a couple times and they’re cool with each other. I warned my boy about this girl cos she has a reputation and a body count longer than the queues in Lidl on a Sunday afternoon but he said he aint insecure and don’t worry about shit like that which I hear but this girl is scandalous. I told my other boy to lock it off and he said he will and he said he didn’t know she had a man, let alone someone he was cool with. I know that if I tell my boy about what his mrs has been up to there’s gonna be fireworks. I don’t want this to happen. I don’t even know what to do in this situation. I sent a dm to his girl to tell her to tell him the dirt but not say who it was with but she said she ain’t saying shit and she blocked me on Twitter. What should I do? I don’t wanna see two of my boys fighting other this ting cos she ain’t worth it but I can’t let her get away with this.
12. February 2018
Jesus, lol. I think it’s best if you just tell the guy she’s in a relationship with, she can’t be crazy enough to deny it further, espcially when YOU know who it’s with.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I have a job interview coming up with a company in the field that I really want to work in. This is my dream job. I’ve been working in retail since I finished uni last May and this is my first interview in months after applying for so many jobs and not hearing back from anyone. I am so eager to secure this role. It will literally double my salary and will kick start my career. The recruiter I’m working with sent me an email with general info about the job leading up to my interview. The email had the names of the people interviewing me and my line manager should I get the job. I saw a name that I recognised so I google searched, saw the LinkedIn and boom, it was a guy I used to fuck with. Not only is he interviewing me but he will also be my line manager. I won’t lie to you Oloni, I did him very dirty. I’m sure that if he knew it was me he was interviewing, I wouldn’t even have secured an interview in the first place (he knew my as a different name). I’m so tempted to message him on LinkedIn and apologise to him for all of the things I did to him in my hoe phase but I don’t know if that is mixing my personal life with my professional life. I don’t even know if I am allowed to do that. I don’t know what to do in general. What do you think I should do Oloni? Please help
12. February 2018
First off, congratulations on getting an interview I’m hoping this conundrum doesn’t set you back at all. In fact, if I were you, I probably wouldn’t say anything to him via message. Hopefully he’ll be mature/professional enough to set aside his own feelings and give his approval based on your skills and experience.
Once you do get the job (cus I only speak in affirmations sis lol) I think it wouldn’t hurt to have a conversation about the past and apologise for any wrong doings, but AFTER you get the job.
Good luck
Oloni
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12. February 2018
Hergasm. It’s 100 percent discreet. It doesn’t have a giant logo saying “hergasm” when posted lol! It comes in a normal delivery package. Get it here.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so to make a long story short, I want to know why I keep attracting the wrong men. I keep meeting fuckboys or married men (they hide the fact they’re married)even though I don’t rush into sex with these guys, dress slutty etc. Is it a vibe I’m giving off or something? I consider my attractive and I have goals and talents, educated with a career etc. I want to find a man that wants emotional connection and want marriage eventually. I often feel like I can’t have great sex without love as if I have to choose one or the other. I want to know how to get a guy to see me as wife material instead of friends with benefits? What do I do?
12. February 2018
There’s no such thing as being “wifey material” you can only work on being the best version of yourself. Second, it’s not unheard of for nasty married men to try and pursue young women.
Fuckboys have to approach women doing well for themselves, who else are they supposed to sponge off? Honestly there are several women who can relate.
Try meeting new people, through new experiences. You’ve got this.
Oloni
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