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my boyfriend hit me and racially abused me. he made a really stupid comment about black girls and we argued and he hit me. im shaking with anger right now i want to leave him but i have no where to go. im pregnant and i stay with him in his grandma’s flat and I’ve just had enough of him and her. his grandma is really racist but never to my facebut ive had enough and i want to leave. would i be wrong for just leaving without telling him. and also where can i go as a pregnant woman.
26. December 2017
Hey hun, I’m really sorry to hear what you’re going through it’s disgusting and you need to seek help quickly. I’m unsure of where you’re from, but if you do live in the UK please go to your local council and explain your situation. If you don’t want to do that, try reaching out to a friend. This isn’t just for you any more, but your baby. Your experience could put you in great danger, so please put your baby first and do your absolute best to get out of this situation.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, something just happened to me right now (well not rn but yesterday). I was horny very very horny, so I used my old battery powered toothbrush to masturbate and for the first time in my 20 yrs I squirted, I wasn’t too sure as I thought it was pee did it again and again and I squirted each time so i’be decided to get a vibrator to use with my bf but my fear is that when he uses it on me and I squirt that will affect sex between us cos he thinks he is so experienced yet he has never made me cum I always have to fake it so when he sees that I squirt when I actually orgasm he’d start to look for that and I won’t be able to fake it anymore. He loves to please me, won’t stop until i cum (fake it)
26. December 2017
Thanks for writing in, but please never use an electric toothbrush to masturbate as it’s not designed for that. As for faking it, have a conversation with your partner and tell him you’d like to incorporate sex toys in the bedroom.
It’s normal for many women to fake it and hopefully one day as a collective we’ll decide to stop, lol.. but it isn’t out of the ordinary. Most women can’t climax through penetration, but through clitoral stimulation. In fact there are several studies which prove 25% of women orgasm through vaginal penetration. Go figure.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, before me and my girlfriend got together she would say it wouldn’t be okay for her man to like other girls pics or talk to them through social media. Since we’ve been together I haven’t done that at all so I don’t disrespect her but then I see her liking guys pics and talking to them on snap and it bothers me. I don’t wanna sound childish or petty but these weee
23. December 2017
You’re both immature, being in a relationship shouldn’t STOP you from talking to someone of the opposite sex, so long as there’s boundaries and respect. Talk about it.
Oloni
I have been catfishing a guy for 2 months and he wants to meet before the end of the year and I don’t know how to tell him my truth. I know I want to be with him and he feels the same way about me and the only thing that could get in the way is the fact that I am not the woman in my pictures. How can I keep my relationship with him and tell him about the catfish part without losing him please help?
23. December 2017
I think you need to work on your self esteem. What would drive you to pretend to be someone you’re not? What you’ve done is dangerous and deceitful. Tell him immediately, and hopefully you can start off fresh.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I just started my first job ever in a supermarket. I wanna save up because I’m going to uni in September and I don’t want to be broke or a fraudster lol. Anyway I always felt like my manager is always flirting with me but our staff Christmas party confirmed this. We were talking, she lived near me so she said she’ll drop me home, I ended up going to her place and laying some pipe. The next day one of my colleagues that’s been here longer than me was saying that I took advantage of her because of her condition. Apparently she has mental health issues. I didn’t know about her issues but my colleague is saying she’s going to report me to HR. I’ve never really spoken to this girl so I don’t know why she’s trying to violate like this. I don’t feel I did anything wrong other than sleeping with a colleague. Am I in the wrong in this situation or is my manger? I’m 17 and she’s in her 20’s btw.
23. December 2017
Oh wow that’s messy, but how were you to know she had mental health issues? Either way I think your other colleague needs to mind her own business. You’re both consensual adults in the UK and from what you’ve described this was something you agreed to equally.
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