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Hey girl , Please how do you protect yourself from a partner that has herpes. I’ve chosen to stay with him. Thanks sis
18. December 2017
Heya, I think it’d be a great idea if you both made a visit to a sexual health clinic for more professional advice. However, I would say it’d be wise to ALWAYS use protection during any sort of intimacy, so this goes for sex that involves vaginal peneteration/anal sex as well as, oral sex. You’re also NEVER supposed to have sex during a break out (even with a condom), so it’s important he informs you about this. You can read more about herpes here: http://simplyoloni.com/usher-herpes-and-everything-you-should-know-about-the-virus/
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I am 19 and sleeping with a married man who is 38 with 3 kids. I’m addicted. I need help
18. December 2017
Leave and cut all ties with him.
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Hey oloni, I have a problem.. I think I’m addicted to using sex toys. My sex life isn’t too bad and I do get dick but oh my gosh I never want it to end 😩 when my mans not here and I’m at home I’m using sex toys like 3 times a day. Before I work, when I get home from work and before I go to bed, I’m not sure if this is becoming an addiction and it needs to stop lol do you have any tips please?x
18. December 2017
I don’t think it’s an addiction, It just sounds like you have a high libido and understand your body well. I’m not a sex therapist so don’t take my word for gospel. It just sounds like you really enjoy masturbating. If you are seriously worried, try seeking help from a professional.
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Hi Oloni I’m 19 and at university. This summer I got back together with my ex from 3 years ago at his insurance. The relationship is long distance (he is in Canada, I’m in the UK) for the first two months it went well but lately he barely texts me or calls me. The conversation is bland and I don’t know what to do. He claims he is busy with work and school but I see him out all the time on Snapchat. Sometimes I feel so stupid for taking him back. What should I do ?
18. December 2017
Dump him and find a guy in your own timezone. 19, not 35 and married.
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Hi oloni, so me and my boyfriend were overweight when we met and have been so for the 2 years we have been going out. He had to move a way for 6 months for work and he has made a huge change. He’s lost 100lbs in that time and he didn’t tell me(lol to surprise me). I’m so happy for him and he’s never looked better. Since he’s been back though he gets so much attention from women that he never use to get. It’s left me feeling paranoid and scared he’s going to leave me. We don’t even have sex much and I’m guessing it’s because of my size. I have gotten bigger in that time so I’m guessing he finds me less attractive. I see so many women putting heart eyes on his pictures it’s driving me crazy. My Cooking was the way to his heart but he no longer eats my food so I don’t even know what to do. I’m trying to lose weight but other than that is there anything I can do to spark more interest in me from him?
18. December 2017
Hey hun! Thanks for writing in, from what you’ve shared, it seems as though, you’re insecure, and it’s completely normal for you to feel the way you do. However, I’m sure there’s more to you than your physical appearances. There’s a reason he’s been with you for two years and there’s a reason he’s STILL with you today. That’s something you need to realise. Why not ask him for help and use his success as motivation? Tell him how you’ve also been feeling, I’m sure he’d appreciate it.
And please also work on your confidence before anything else.
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