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Oloni hey. An ex who I previously had an abortion for back in my uni days has recently tried to pursue me again. He added me on social media a couple of years after we’ve left and he has apologised for what happened between us (cheating, abortion, general disrespect) and he now appears to be a brand new and improved man. He wants to take me out on a date (we’ve been texting back and forth) and I’m not sure if it’s something I should even be considering due to the hurtful past (although i’m way past it now, I was younger then), I do not want similar mistakes or issues to occur. We’ve established that there are rekindled feelings on both sides, but do you think it’s wise for me to start dating him again? Or would you suggest to leave things in the past? Any advice is appreciated
17. December 2017
Honestly it all boils down to how you feel. I understand you were both younger, but it doesn’t change the fact, he’s from your past and your memories together are not positive. Personally I would let this go.
You can forgive without having to date him again.
Oloni
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My bf ripped my fairly new peruvian middle part closure during sex last night and he’s refusing to pay the amount for a brand new one. He was pulling on my hair too hard and I warned him, afterwards I saw that it had ripped and got annoyed with him. I told him to give me £90 for a new one and even showed him the price and he’s saying it’s overpriced and ridiculous. I asked him what I should do and he said I should wear cheaper hair. He left because I was in a mood and he asked if I was over it today but I’m actually not and want the money to buy a new closure which he has adamantly refused to provide. Should I break up with him?
17. December 2017
This isn’t a reason for you to break up, he also just doesn’t have £90 to cough up. It’s irritating that you warned him and he never listened, so instead make that the topic and express how you felt when he ignored your request. That is the issue.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my man left me for his child’s mother. We started off as friends then slowly our feelings grew. He wasn’t my type but I slowly fell for him and he told me he felt the same. He told me he has a daughter who was 9 months old when we met, in my mind I thought this was a bit young and I wondered what had happened there but he assured me they broke up and would never get back together. Anyway, just when we made it official I posted a pic of us on instagram and got a crazy DM of his child’s mother asking me why I’ve got pics of her man. I told him and he apologised saying she’s still in love with him and she’s just angry about us. I took his word and left it (thinking back I should of knew something was off from then) so we finally had sex for the first time and then his messages became fewer and fewer. He started ignoring calls and posting his child’s mother for Mother’s Day and her birthday and such, I called him and asked why all of a sudden he’s started doing that as he’d told me he hated her. He got really angry and shouted saying ‘so what if I wanna post my fucking bm what’s it got to do with you’ I said cool, he later apologised so again I thought nothing of it. 2 weeks later no contact (bare in mind this is my MAN) I see pics of him his daughter and his baby mum on HOLIDAY!! This is the first time I saw her oloni and tbh my heart sank. She is beautiful, a pretty face and a nice body. I’m hoping he just went back to her for her looks and maybe he’ll come back? Should I just accept this loss and move on? He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me but he’s completely fucked me off for her and I’m blocked on everything for now???? I’m crushed please help.
13. December 2017
Hey love, he’s said and shown you two different things. If this isn’t enough for you to move on, I don’t know what else will.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, So this guy that I’ve been talking to was with his ex for about five years. Basically two nights ago, I saw his friend and he told me that this guy and his ex broke up because she left to work in the states. But they were also close to getting married. I thought whatever because she’s gone right? Then he tells me she’s coming back to London to spend Christmas with her family and he’s invited. What should I do? Should I confront him or leave it?
13. December 2017
I would let this go if I were you.
Oloni
I have slept with 4 guys within the space of 3 months & now I’ve been given an sti. This could mean that the first guy probably gave it to me and now I’ve given it to the others. I am currently having causal sex with one of the boys and I don’t know what to do
13. December 2017
Have a scroll on the last two pages, I gave someone similar to your position some advice on what to do.
Oloni
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