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Hi Oloni, I feel like my girl has a wondering eye and I don’t like it, not one bit. Whenever we are out her eyes always seem to land on guys and this proper stresses me. Whenever I ask her about it she says it’s nothing and it’s in my head. I feel like what concerns me is that she’s told me how she used to cheat in her previous relationships and I myself was cheated on by my ex but she says she was emotionally broken back then and she changed now but it still bugs me. Once she smiled at a man when we were at a restaurant and she said he was her old work colleague but when I asked his name she said she doesn’t remember his name. She’s a solid 10/10 and she’s otherwise perfect. Do you think I’m overreacting? I’m not trying to get played again because my confidence was shattered when my ex cheated on me.
28. November 2017
Heya, it’s so important to make sure that before getting into a new relationship you don’t allow what happened in the past, to have any influence on your new relationship.
It could be all in your head, or it could turn out she’s being very inappropriate. Talk to her and explain how you feel.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, this dilemma is so weird I didn’t even tell my friends because they’d probably just say I’m really lucky, but it’s really messing me up. So I started talking to this girl and everything was cool and we ended up having sex after meeting a couple times. It was great whilst it lasted but I noticed every other time we met up she would tell me to come over we have sex and would kick me out before morning. Other times she was all lovey and acted like the girlfriend I never had and was really cute. I didn’t mind at the start as I wasn’t that interested but We did this for 2 months and I started developing feelings for her. I would try speak to her more and try meet up more but Some nights she would still, however, just call me for dick and kick me out which was really bugging me. I’m not really a social media person but I started stalking her on Facebook and was shocked to find out she had an identical twin sister and she never brought it up in conversations. Like they looked like mirror images of each other and they live together. Yet every time I went over I never saw her sister. Then it dawned on me that I think I’ve been fucking both of them. I can’t even tell the difference between them and it’s freaking me out. It explains the 2 different personalities and how she would act so different every other time I saw her. Most guys would feel content but I genuinely feel violated. Almost like I’ve been raped or something. I don’t even know what to do in this situation it’s so hard to explain but it’s really been messing me up for some reason. Any advice?
26. November 2017
Wow!
That is actually crazy. And if you are being intimate with someone else who isn’t who you thought they were, that is definitely rape.
It’s such a tricky one, because how do you prove it’s been two different women? I would say you should definitely try to get a confession out of her. If it turns out you’re right, go to the police and report it. That’s dangerous.?
If you’re wrong, I think it’d be best, you stopped having sex with this girl as it’s clear the mood swings she has are clearly giving you mixed signals. I really do hope you’ve been sleeping with the same person. Feel free to come back and update.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, you probably have answered this lots but I have a boyfriend and I absolutely adore that boy, I actually think I will spend the rest of my life with him but (i hate buts theres always a but) there’s this boy, younger than me by only two years, has caught my eye. We hang out quite a lot because of the same activity we do and mutual friends. He is a fun and sweet guy, and I think I’m attracted to him. What should I do? Should I do something about it or do nothing at all? I dont want to break up with my boyfriend but I am afraid I’ll regret it if I just leave it like that
26. November 2017
Perhaps you don’t want to be with your boyfriend as much as you think you do. Just remember the 80/20 ruke. The grass isn’t always greener.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. This guy I had sex with, told me he didn’t have a girlfriend. I went on his Instagram and found out he’s actually had one for almost 4 years! But I will see this guy everyday for the next few weeks as we are on the same course. And he also talks about hooking up again to have sex. I’m pissed off that he thinks he can just lie to me and I wouldn’t find out! So how do I tell him I know he’s got a girlfriend? Should I just show him the screenshots of his insta? Thank you.
26. November 2017
Just tell him you know. Jheez!
Hi Oloni, I’ve got a very sticky situation and I’m not very comfortable with sharing this situation with anyone due to how awkward it really is. I’m extremely embarrassed about a situation with my ex. So I had a boyfriend who I can’t lie I settled for, yes he wasn’t a looker but I thought let’s give it a go, let’s give personality a chance. So we was together for 3 months. So it was good and bad and what not, a lot of ups and downs, but THEN! I find out him and my BESTFRIEND went on a BAECATION!!!! YES WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER! But hold on! My BESTFRIEND IS A MALE. So when I have confronted them, they said nothing happened, but then I saw a screenshot where my EX actually says to him he knows it might not be right but that’s how it feels for a reason! So through all this, I’ve tried to confront him about it for a while, almost wanting to admit that he’s bisexual, just for clarity purposes otherwise I cannot get over the fact I was some weird stop gap, not the fact I broke up with him, what do I do?
26. November 2017
I’m so confused, so your ex went on holiday with your friend? This is all types of mess. Please come back and expain further.
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