Heya hun! Sometimes we end up in mortifying situations in life, it happens. What you choose to do sexually shouldn’t have to be explained to anyone, especially when it’s consensual and makes you feel empowered.

Having any one related to you witness it can’t be easy either, especially a brother. What you need to do is call him and speak about it, as this is something that clearly bothered him. You shouldn’t have to apologise for your sexual activities, but you should try to clear the air. Being sexual shouldn’t drive him this far away from you, even if he felt embarrassed, you’re family.

I hope you really do work it out over time and please do visit a sexual health clinic.

Oloni

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Depends what type of cheeky.. but if you think he’s doing the most, he’s probably just signalling, that he’s only interested in sex.

Oloni

Lol you want to watch it or you want him to delete it? Talk to him about it and express that’d you’d prefer if he got rid of any photos or videos with her including his sex tape. It’s okay if you feel uncomfortable by it, but don’t ask to watch it, if it’s clearly going to make you annoyed.

Oloni.

Is it realistic? In my honest opinion, no. Could you become good friends, yes, sure. When it comes to men with new kids there’s always a huge chance they’ll get back with the mother of their child. He got with her to get his papers, but impregnated her.. ummm? You also live very far from each other. People who live in the same place can barely make situations like this work, let alone LDR’s.

I could be completely wrong so see how it goes when he visits.

Oloni

First think about whether it’s really a good idea or not. Why did you break up? Has it been resolved?

Try reaching out and asking to meet up in a public, but in a quiet space suitable to talk. Share how you feel and ask where their mind is at. You never know they might be happy you decided to make the first move to try to get back together.

Oloni