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Serious dilemma oloni,there’s this guy i’ve been doing for the last 2 years (not regularly) but we have the bombest sex even made a video and all those things just turn me on even more. I really like him and i know he doesnt want anything more than sex,so this year we havent fucked and its cause i’ve been turning him down. But im lowkey craving the D,like serious withdrawal symptoms. Now my question is can i just fuck him one or two times before leaving the situationship? I’ve been saying no and its cause i want him to take me serious but my pussy is saying otherwise 😞😔
19. October 2017
Stop having sex with him hin, lol it’ll just become even more complicated and unhealthy. If that isn’t what you want, run far away and masturbate instead.
Oloni
Hey sisssss, tips and tricks on how to spice up sex life? We’ve been together a while and things are getting repetitive..help?
19. October 2017
Try introducing something new into the bedroom, role play, dressing up, toys, watching porn together.. sex in an unusual place perhaps?
Oloni
Is there anything wrong with being almost 20 and never really being in a relationship or kissed a boy. I am in this dilemma and I dunno what to do!!!
19. October 2017
There’s nothing odd about it. There are plenty of 20-something-year olds who have never been in a relationship. Try excercising the art of dating by working on yourself, meeting new people, going out more and using dating apps. You’ll be fine!
Oloni
Hey I hope this annomous 😕But basically I’ve been with this guy for 2 years and during and before sex he doesn’t kiss me anymore unless I ask even then it’s not a proper kiss what do I do ? Or what does this mean ?
19. October 2017
He might not enjoy kissing, or might just be bad at it. What you should do is spark a conversation on the topic. When you’re intimate with someone, communication should be very important.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so I’ve messed up really badly and have been absolutely hating myself the past while. I cheated on my boyfriend of almost 3 years on my study year abroad 2 weeks before he visited me. The guy and I were pretty drunk and had sex. Afterwards i felt so disgusting and promised myself I’d never do anything of the sort again. I still have no idea why I did it. Anyway he visited me and i was terrfiied to tell him the whole time so I told him when he arrived home and he flipped out. I only told him that it was a kiss though. I regret it so much and want to continue on in the relationship and stay with this man forever, but I feel so guilty keeping such a huge secret from him forever. I love him and we have been best friends for 4 years now and have planned out our future together. However I’ll be studying abroad until summer and i don’t want to tell him the full story in case he really can’t understand or hear my side & be able to talk it out properly face to face. I know I messed up so badly and it made me see how much i value our relationship. Do I ever tell him? Is it best to keep it to myself and move forward and give him all the love i can? Please help
19. October 2017
Hey hun, you have to tell him. A half truth is never fair, he deserves to know what really happened or else your relationship will be built off a lie. It’s up to him to decide what he wants to do, not you. What you don’t want to be right now is deceitful. If you’re scared about his reaction then do it over the phone, either way he has to know.
Oloni
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