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Morning Oloni, so recently after realising I’ve waste far to long on a fuckboy I decided to see how my hoe skills were except I’m not getting very far because every time I tell a guy there’s a few things I like to follow by such as making sure we are both clean by either showing each other recent results or by visiting the clinic if it’s been a while and by telling them what I like sexually and making sure they are ok with it all I end up getting told I’m being extra, Who do I think i am? And so on now I don’t feel I’m being extra by trying to protect both our healths and also by letting it be know that I like what I like so that we can both be satisfied but sis am I being extra?
19. October 2017
You’re not being extra, you’re protecting your health. You’re messing with the wrong ones hun, but I think you making that effort is positive. There are mature and responsible men out there, that won’t make you feel like this.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, My former fiance asked me to marry him and I happily accepted – he was the man of my dreams! However – he’s a bit of a finance nut – he gave me two choices: i) a ring or ii) some of his investment portfolio, which I would be able to call (withdraw the funds) after a number of years. Naturally, I requested for option i) and much to my shock, he suddenly withdrew his offer of marriage, accusing me of being “too myopic”. He pointed out that marriage was an investment like any other and not an item of consumption (& the portfolio he was offering to me was in the multiple, multiple of thousands). Heart broken but lesson learned!
19. October 2017
You’ll meet someone better, he dated you and proposed, just to do that?
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m convinced that my girl’s best friend is on to me and she’s trying to move to me. She’s always kinda touchy whenever I see her. I thought she was just friendly but she says some flirty things. She always says stuff like ‘you treat [my girl] so well, I wish I had a bf like you’. She followed me on Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat. My girl doesn’t have Twitter or Instagram so I thought she was just preeing but she’s started to DM me funny tweets and stuff. She even sent me one horoscope tweet and said our star signs would be perfect together. I replied saying me and my girl’s star sign are perfect together. When I told my girl she just dismissed it and said she’s just like that. What should I do? I don’t think she’s being a good friend right now and I don’t feel comfortable with the way she’s moving but her and my girl have been friends for years.
19. October 2017
Her friend is a bit too friendly. That’s not even okay. Ignore her, she’ll get the hint and piss off.
Also have another conversation with your girlfriend and let her know what you deem as inappropriate in a relationship.
She (gf’s friend) has no boundaries.
Oloni
Hey sis, One of my guy friends I’ve known for a while recently got a girlfriend. He’s invited me over to his for the weekend as I haven’t seen him in a while but I don’t know if it’s appropriate for me to go. I’ve known him way longer than his girlfriend and all but we’ve flirted in the past and I never want to be THAT girl. Do you think I should visit him or stay my ass home? Thanks xx
11. October 2017
Hmm tricky. But if you feel odd about it, just meet up and go out for lunch as mates.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, hope you’re doing well beautiful. This is just a quick story on what happened to me last night, I have recently changed rooms in my home, my father passed away so I have taken his room which has a toilet built in, in the night my mother would use the toilet in my room because she has problems in her knee and struggles to go up the stairs. My room is practically a storage room because it’s temporary anyway so I have other family members coming in to grab stuff. My mum made it clear to all the men in the house that if they would like to retrieve anything from my room they are to either knock, or if I am asleep ask a female family member to retrieve the item. Last night I was sleeping semi naked – wearing a loose top with nothing underneath. I must’ve become uncovered from my blanket in the night. My brother in law needed to grab his toolbox and decided to walk in and grab it. I was unaware until the next day he and my mother decided to have a talk with me about sleeping semi-naked or naked in fact. Apparently it is not right for me to do it and I should stop immediately. I stopped and asked my mum “okay but why isnt he apologising for walking into my room like that. His first response was that i should never sleep naked in case anyone sees me. I argued back and forth on the fact thay he was TOLD by my mother. What hurt the most was that my mum agreed. So I’m getting in trouble for sleeping however I want in my own room and he gets let off for walking into my room without knocking to see if I was awake or asking a female member in the house to grab his toolbox. Why do we get blamed for shit like this?! Unbelievable
11. October 2017
For some off reason, particular cultures side with whoever is older despite being in the wrong. It’s a very sick mentality. Your mum even contradicted herself because, ageism. You should be entitled to sleep whatever way you want, whether this be fully clothed or nude. It’s your bedroom, your space, your privacy.
Have you ever thought about getting a lock on your door? You should.
Oloni
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