Dear Oloni, I started dating my boyfriend 6months ago and he is amazing guy. However I have a problem with his female best friend. To explain things clearly, he has a group of 5 friends(4 boys and 1 girl). The girl is the princess of the group and they all treat her with soo much love, so much that she has a say when they decide on girls they are dating. Basically she’s one of the mandem. My issue with her is how much of a say she has in everything and how much my bf consults her on everything. He recently missed her birthday dinner because I didn’t want to attend( I faked being ill on the night) then to make things up to her he bought her £700 shoes. Oloni £700 shoes!! He has never bought me £700 shoes, when I asked him about it he said she’s like he’s younger sister and she deserves it. She calls him whenever she needs something and basically tells him what to do all the time. He even seeks her advise before speaking to me about anything. How do I let him know that I don’t feel comfortable with their friendship without sounding like a jealous gf. Thanks for your advise.
4. October 2017
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Okay, first of all, your man is doing way too much. While I understand that £700 to some is like seven squid to others, that is still too much money to be spending on another woman. She might be like a ‘sister’, but she’s not.
The best way to address this is to ask him how he’d feel if you spent a lavish amount of money on another dude? Communicate how it makes you feel.
If my man spent £700 on another woman, I’d ask him to collect it back. Wow!
If this is what he’s like, then please take into consideration, that this is who he is and your relationship might bot be enough for him to change. So you can express how you feel… see if there’s a change.. and if there isn’t, either walk or stay.
£700 though?
Oloni
Dear Oloni, my boyfriend of three years and I have a great relationship. However, he says he is uncertain of his long term career plan and says he does not know how busy he’ll be in 3/4 years and hence he doesn’t know whether we would manage to make it work (we are in a long distance relationship) what do you think? thanks for your help!
4. October 2017
It sounds like, he’s trying to let you go, when you’re in a long distance relationship, the aim is to have a goal of one day being together for good and working towards it. He’s saying the opposite. Have another conversation and ask how he truly feels about the relationship.
Oloni
Oloni my boyfriend of 3 months has asked me to consider marrying him or getting pregnant so he can get a British passport. We both love each other, but im in the middle of uni right now and think we should wait maybe 1yr-2yrs before considering anything like that but he says if I love him and want to help him get sorted that I should do it for him. What should I do?
4. October 2017
Get rid of him, he’s using you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months, we were getting a house together and had our whole future planned from having babies to getting married. We both love eachother and he worships the ground I walk on. 2 days ago I found out he cheated on my in August. He slept with her twice that night without using a condom. He is apologising and crying. We both haven’t ate or slept in days. I still love him and want to be with him but the girl he cheated on me with says that they’ve slept together throughout our whole relationship. I have dropped all my friends and quit my job for this guy so I solely rely on him for everything. What do I do?
4. October 2017
He’s an asshole, but you’ve made so many errors of your own sis. Never in your life depend on a man, that is the biggest and fastest way to set yourself up for failure.
He probably did sleep with her throughout the relationship and if you do take him back he’ll do it again.
Dry your tears, pick yourself up and look for a job.
You will be fine.
Oloni
Hey oloni I recently started dating this guy and he was perfect, lookswise and good personality. However recently we Netflix and chilled and I was so horny I ended up taking it to the bedroom. When it got down to it and he pulled it out it was small. Also when he went in he lasted one stroke. Oloni I was so disappointed. His excuse was I was too ‘lubricated’. We tried again and I still couldn’t feel him. I really like him and he’s an amazing guy but sex is a big part of a relationship for me. Ever since that day whenever he’s tried to touch me sexually or initiate sex I’ve basically refused and made excuses because I don’t want to be dissapointed. I’m really confused on whether to end it or find a way to make it work.
3. October 2017
Why not try other forms of sexual acts? You can’t really tell what someones like in bed based off very little action. If you like him, try again and this time, make sure the foreplay lasts longer. Tell him what you enjoy in bed most and communicate.
Good luck!
Operation Atonement
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