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Hi Oloni. I’m 20 years old and I only became sexually active a few months ago. Obviously through that experience i’ve become much more concious of how my vagina looks. I’m a woc and I think its normal for us to have dark areas – the elbows, underarms, inner thighs etc. But I realised how dark my vagina area is. Not thr actual vagina but the labias/lips are kind of grey and its proper off-putting even for me to look at :/ Do guys care? One time when a guy went down on me he made a comment, not in a rude way but he just said “how comes its so dark?” And also my vagina is very “neat” before sex whereas after the inner lips kind of come out and it looks “messy”. Again I didn’t know this was a thing until my friend said it happens to her so i checked for myself and it was true for me too. Are these things normal and do guys care? :/
24. September 2017
Hey hun, it is natural for us to have darker areas. I’m also a firm believer on thinking only the wrong type of guy will make you feel odd for how you look naturally.
Vaginas come in a million forms, so I’m 100% yours still looks normal.
Oloni
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Hey Oloni! Im going to keep this as short as I possibly can. So i’m inlove with a guy, we’ve been in eachothers lives for the last 7 years…friends, lovers, holiday partners ect. Anyway we’re both crazy about eachother, but things have always come in the way of us being able to give things a proper go. Now hes looking at facing possible jail time (1-4 years) What the hell should I do?! Propose we give things a go…walk away…? Please help. Thanks x
24. September 2017
He’s going to prison. Let him do his time and make a decision after.
Oloni
Hey, I had a situation a couple years ago when I was talking to this guy I met out, we met up and after a couple times together we had sex. The next day he didn’t msg so I asked him if we was kl and he said you need to get yourself checked, you stink … pretty much in so many words. A few wks later I got ill and to cut a long story short I found out I had a tampon that had been pushed up from me inserting another tampon (not realising I already had one in!) and it had been in for weeks (it sounds gross but this was unintentional and I only come to realise when I fell ill) so this was the smell, I had no std’s etc. Now I have started seeing someone and I’ve realised he is friends with the person I had the situation with before, I feel I need to tell him I slept with your friend but don’t even want to incase he mentions it to his friend (I don’t no the convo’s boys have behind closed doors lol) and his friend says something like she’s nasty she’s a tramp etc because of course I didnt tell anyone of the tampon situation cos I kept it to myself. Basically I am saying how can I tell him and do I mention the comment he made and what was actually going on etc? It’s so awkward sorry this is so long
24. September 2017
His friend is an immature and insensitive bastard, and guys like him can’t wait to talk badly about women.
I suggest you tell him before his mate does. I’ve heard of many stories of women accidentally leaving tampons inside themselves, it happens and you shouldn’t be shamed for that mistake.
Oloni
Hi oloni I am with someone that has a girlfriend but he broke up with her coz of me and I love him very much i have helped him pay his debts and even part of his school fees now we are having issues because he posted pictures of them together like a whole album on her birthday and I got upset and now he is saying I overreacted…what should I do did I overreact?
24. September 2017
You reap what you sow.
But seriously, get rid of him.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, i’ve been married for 3 months with my BF of 9 years, and I found out he cheated on my for months before our wedding, he says he started because he was feeling lonely bc his mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and this other girls felt like a break from reality and he ended before our wedding because he know I am his real love. I do believe he loves me and I love him deeply but my question is, how can I start trusting him again? Should I even do?
24. September 2017
Hey love! I’m so sorry you had to experience this. An ill family member is still not an excuse to step out of your relationship and I’m sure he knows this.
I think you should both seek marriage counselling, because although your are still quite early into the marriage you don’t want this to be an unresolved issue. You could end up resenting him.
Good luck!!
Oloni
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