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Hi Oloni.ive recently relocated to london and I’m finding it hard to meet new people who I don’t work with. Can you recommend any places or activities that will help me socialise and maybe meet a new love interest. All I do is work now due to being bored on my days off. I’m only 23 and worried this may stop me finding love too. Please help.
14. September 2017
Hey hun download some social media apps that allow you to make friends with people in your area. There’s always an event happening in London too, just have a search on fb.
Oloni
What do you do when you notice the guy you’re speaking/seeing is liking other girls pictures on Instagram & tagging them on posts? . I get it, I’m guilty of liking guys (models) pictures, it’s just the tagging that is bothering me… I might be jumping into conclusions or maybe I’m just not ready& need to work on myself?! I would appreciate your opinion on this matter. Thank you!
14. September 2017
Tagging how? His friends? Either way he’s single.
Hi oloni. So I’m in a relationship and my bf is great, he’s really kind and treats me well. The problem is that whenever he has to deliver any kind of negative news, he assumes my reaction is going to be bitchy even tho I’ve never reacted like this. Like, he cancelled on me cos of work and I said *sincerely* that it’s fine don’t worry about it, and he immediately said don’t be annoyed it’s not my fault. This constant playing the victim is getting annoying and my patience to appease him has worn thin. We have argued about this several times! Any advice??
14. September 2017
Have a conversation with him before it reaches that point again. Explain how it makes you feel. There’s clearly a miscommunication between the two of you, and it needs to be resolved.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I don’t think my boyfriend enjoys having sex with me. He’s really good in the sheets, he gives me leg shaking orgasms and I cum every time we have sex. He however, rarely cums, and when he does he has to masterbate himself to get off because I can’t even get him to cum like that. It really makes me feel anxious because I can’t please him. I know this must be a weird dilemma because it’s usually women who struggle to orgasm with their partners but with me it’s reverse lol. I feel like I may lose him because lately he doesn’t even seem interested in having sex now. I’ve searched the internet for tips but nothing I do seems to work. How should I try to spice things up?
14. September 2017
Hey hun, this isn’t a weird dilemma. Try longer foreplay including oral sex with him. It will help him reach his climax.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I remember reading on your page that someone cannot love their partner and cheat on them but I really don’t think this is right. So I am married and I have a child and I love my husband I do but there is this one guy who I went to uni with and I cannot resist him. We have met a couple of times where we have had sexual encounters but have not had sex because I just think that is too far. Him and I have amazing sexual chemistry and he does what i ask him to do in the bedroom whereas if I ask my hubby to do it he just won’t. I am a VERY sexual girl with a high sex drive. I enjoy things like facials and being peed on and even eating ass but my hubby won’t engage because he doesn’t see me that way. It’s honestly frustrating. Although I no longer live near this guy we still sext and I send him nudes and he’ll send me videos of himself back and we’ll text each other our fantasies. This guy is not hubby material though and I don’t have feelings for him I only just talk to him when I’m bored. I just honestly wish my hubby was more sexual and I have spoken to him he’ll change for like a few sex sessions but it’s just not exciting. What should I do?
4. September 2017
What you have with your husband isn’t love my dear, it’s familiarity and comfort. Yes, you can still love someone and not be sexually right for each other, but the moment you do anything behind your partners back.. especially to this level, is just wrong.
We all have sexual urges, but being ‘very sexual’ isn’t enough to step out of your relationship, especially in this way. If you were in in an open relationship, where at least your partner knew you were looking for imtimacy elsewhere, that’d be more, honest.
This isn’t love. Not to me anyway.
Oloni
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