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Hi oloni, I think I messed up. I’d been talking to this guy for some time and growing to like him a lot. But he hadn’t asked me out on a date yet so I took the plunge and asked him to go for a meal at a nice restaurant. It was an amazing date and Long story short the bill came and it was about £160. I ordered really expensive cocktails but I didn’t know they were that expensive. And to add insult to injury I left my purse in my other bag so the bill fell on him. He looked visibly annoyed and I asked what’s wrong and he said “you asked me out and now I’m paying, interesting”. I could just hear the disappointment in his voice. The thing is the date was actually amazing and he was a really lovely guy. I even offered to pay him back after the date but he just doesn’t seem interested in me anymore. Weird thing is I still want to pursue things with him, so my question is how do show him I’m genuinely interested and really sorry for that first date ending like it did.
3. September 2017
Oh lord sis! Lol. Rookie mistake, never leave your purse at home. I’m confused as to why you didn’t look at the price of the drinks you ordered.
You could try reaching out to him apologising again, because let’s be honest, he had every right to be annoyed. If he doesn’t agree, you’re just going to have to chop this L and learn from it.
oloni
Hi oloni, I love your platform!! My boyfriend is really angry with me. He’s not a fan of Oral sex, he doesn’t want it nor does he give it to me. It makes me really frustrated. Other than that he’s perfect. So one night I got him really drunk and then sat on his face and grinded. He was so angry I thought he was gonna hit me or something. He left mine and hasn’t spoken to me much this week. I’ve apologised to him several times but he says he feels violated and disgusted. I know I shouldn’t have done that but to say he feels disgusted really hurt. I didn’t think doing that would put us on the brink like this and I just need some help. What do I do?
3. September 2017
If I’m completely honest, you’re out of order and quite disgusting. You should NEVER ever get anybody intoxicated so they can give into your sexual urges. I’m fuming as I type this, because it’s so unbelievably wrong.
Stay away from him as nothing positive will ever come from that relationship. If he had gotten you drunk to fulfil a fantasy of his, how would you feel? You’ve crossed the line. If you weren’t sexually compatible with him, then you should have left and looked for someone else who could give you what you desired.
Once again, intentionally getting someone drunk for sexual pleasure is rape.
Oloni
Should I be worried if my girl watches lesbian porn? I don’t watch any homosexual porn (gay or lesbian) and I know if she found out if I did she would think I was gay or something. It’s really making me feel weird but I feel like I shouldn’t. Got to the point where I thought I had to ask your advice on this.
3. September 2017
It’s normal, a lot of heterosexual women watch gay porn. Don’t look too deeply into.
Oloni
My boyfriend keeps leaving 😍 Emojis under girls pictures , he has girls doing the same thing under his pics but says its nothing as theyre just friends. Am i crazy for being upset by this ? I think it’s disrespectful but he doesnt see an issue?
3. September 2017
Ask if he’d feel comfortable if roles were reversed, if so, there’s an issue.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, i have this friend Ive been friends with for about 7 years. We havent really had many problems/ arguments but im starting to think shes jealous of me. Whenever we go out with friends, she will literally take pictures/ upload snaps of everyone except from me – she’ll see me looking good/doing good and never compliments me, but does the same for our other friends & the only time she has something to say, its never positive! Maybe its not that deep or maybe im overthinking it, but i just get that vibe. Should I talk to her about this or should i just leave it?
3. September 2017
There’s nothing to talk about my dear. If i were you I’d distance myself from her.
Oloni
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