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Hi oloni, so I was talking to my girl about taking my surname if we got married and she said she doesn’t want an African surname(I’m Nigerian). She’s jamaican and this is really throwing me off her because she’s even made comments about not wanting her kids to have nigerian first names. Im a proud Nigerian and this is making me think negatively of her. She’s a lovely person but it’s almost like she looks down on my culture, food etc sometimes and it’s making think this will become a huge issue in future. What do you think about this?
10. October 2017
Why would you marry someone who’s ashamed of your identity? Your name could be Phillips or Oluwabemisokepatpata and it shouldn’t be seen as a problem.
I think you should think carefully about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with her, she seems very proud and it’s a huge red flag.
Oloni
Dear oloni I left my long term best friend alone with an ex for 5 minutesss and she fucked him, what do I do? We had all come back to the ex’s house after a night out (3guys and 3 girls) everyone was drinking, chilling etc just on a vibe. At one point me, my best friend and ex was in a bedroom together and the guy (my ex) was trying to initiate a 3some which I strongly declined as I do not like sharing. I used the excuse of having a cigarette to get out of that mess thinking my best friend would follow, she did not. Once I had finished the cig, I had a gut feeling about leaving them together and rushed straight back to the room only to find them rushing off each other as they heard me coming, she told me she was drunk and it just happened, but that same day she was telling a friend her p*ssy is tingling, she wanted to f*ck, not only that but how could she be “drunk” when she was giving us directions to the location like a tomtom 30minutes earlier. I don’t really blame the guy because I had hurt him in the past and he’s been out to get me since then, but I really didn’t expect my BEST FRIEND to give him that satisfaction smh
10. October 2017
That’s so horrid. I hope this hasn’t affected you emotionally, but that girl isn’t your best friend. She’s a dick opportunist and it’s such a shame that she chose to betray your trust.
Just cut them both off, you’re better without their messiness
Oloni
Hi Oloni, every time I have sex my narnie burns. Like legit fire. Is there something wrong with me ?
10. October 2017
Hey love, it could be a number of things. Try seeing a nurse as soon as possible.
Thanks,
Oloni
Sooo I have these two friends that I’m really close with and we have been friends for 5+ years now and the problem is that I think they don’t like me anymore . Everytime we go out they make me take pictures of them only and whenever I want to be in the pic they are always like wait but it never happens and whenever they snapchat they only show eachother and they only post of each other and they constantly call each other best friends even though one of them talks so much shit about the other one but when it comes to being face to face they automatically like eachother. I’m always here for both of them and it’s wierd because whenever they both have a problem they come to me first not even eachother and I feel like they are using me now. It’s lkke they don’t claim me in front of people and it’s sad.
10. October 2017
I’m so sad that you’re experiencing this, threeway friendships are never easy. I’d suggest you bring them both together and tell hem how you feel, if you notice the same thing happening, perhaps distance yourself.
Good luck
Oloni
Hey oloni! First of all, you’re amazing and if I weren’t based in the US I’d LOVE to be friends & get lunch & stuff lol 😂😂. Anyway, I’m entirely out of my first relationship & I had sex with a guy I’m acquainted with but not super close to. It’s not that it was bad…however he neither likes receiving nor giving oral sex. This is a dilemma for me because not only am I used to getting head, I actually enjoy giving it too. I honestly think that oral sex is a PART of sex. So my first instinct was to run like hell..but he’s actually cool & I don’t want to shut him down just because of his sexual preferences. Should I wait it out and give him a chance to see if my sexual preferences are something he can dig, or just let his ass go ? P.S – I’m NOT looking for another relationship or trying to settle down in any way since I JUST got my freedom back. Thanks girl !!
10. October 2017
Hey hun, if he’s not into oral sex, then he’s not into it, find someone who is. The whole point of having a sex buddy, is to have sex with someone you’re sexually compatible with.
Oloni
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