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My man and I live together and have been together for about 18 months. We go through phases of having sex – we are either having it every night in a week or we’ll go two or three weeks with very little. I’m perfectly happy with this as my sex drive goes up and down but I just worry it’s not consistent enough for my boyfriend. We have talked about it and he said he’s more than happy with our sex life, but I just want to know if it’s normal to go through phases like this? I have never lived with a boyfriend before so I’m not sure!
11. December 2017
Hey love, it’s normal for your libido to change continuously, same with your partner. The good thing is you’ve communicated with him by asking if he’s sexually satisfied. You also got a positive answer, so you have nothing to worry about.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. I may have given someone an STI and I really don’t know what to do about it. I can’t tell him myself because it will seriously ruin my reputation. I’ve ordered treatment online so I should be good but the guilt in me about this guy is consuming me. I was sleeping with him and another girl at the same time so I’m not actually sure of the origin of the STI but what is the worse that can happen if I just don’t say anything?
11. December 2017
You need to take action immediately, it’s common knowledge that STI’s can be passed when you have unprotected sex. It’d be selfish and sexually irresponsible if you don’t let both people know. What you can do is give both their numbers to a sexual health nurse, who can send a message anonymously on your behalf.
In fututre when you want to have casual sex, be sure to update your sexual health check ups every 3 months and ask all your partners about their last visit.
Oloni
why did this guy who’s made so much effort to talk to me and stuff just ghost?
11. December 2017
It’s annoying, but it happens more often than you think. It’s seen as an easier way for some when they’re unable to communicate they’re no longer interested.
Oloni
My male friend that I’ve been close to for years has always expressed he’s attracted to me and gets jealous of other guys but he also does that to all of his other female friends. Recently, I’ve just gotten into a relationship and said friend has asked to stay round mine mine, he’s asked before and I’ve always said no. I said i thought it was inappropriate and not how I wanted to start my new relationship. He had a go at me saying ‘I’ve forgotten my friends’ and changing my whole life for a guy I’ve just met. He’s refusing to speak to me but the loss of a long friendship is making me sad. Am I in the wrong?
5. December 2017
You’re not in the wrong, your male bestie is trash and needs to stay in his lane. It’s extremely inappropriate. The fact that he’s already said he likes you is more of a reason as to why you desperately need to end your friendship with him.
It bothers me for you that he feels so entitled to spending the night, after your first response. He has to go. You don’t need friends like him around. How would you honestly feel if your boyfriend was in this position?
Oloni
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Hi Oloni. I came to a girl as a woman recently because her ex was a dog and now she thinks i’m her support system and wants to be like best-friends now. I do not think this is appropriate although I sympathise with her. What do you think is the right way to deal with this?
5. December 2017
Distance yourself and verbalise how you feel.
Oloni
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