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PLEASE HELP. I have this boy who is head over heels for me, he wants to give me his world and I’m kinda letting him…he found me at a time that I call my “selfish years” where I’m focusing on the betterment of myself and my growth in life and I really didn’t want a boyfriend during this time because I don’t think I can make that investment and I still don’t think I can. I have a sugar daddy and other “hoes” that I all met before him but he insists on trying to be #1 in my life. He literally gives me anything I ask for and is in love with me but I know I don’t feel the same way and I’m basically using the fuck outta him….what should I do??
21. December 2017
Express that you’re not looking for a relationship, you can’t force yourself to be with someone, when you’re not ready. When the time comes, writing to me won’t be an option because, you’ll know what you want.
Oloni
Was bantering with my man and he said my breath smells but I took it to heart and it sounds silly but we had an argument about it. I think generally he does not limit his jokes and they can come across quite harsh but how do I talk to him about this without getting into an argument because this is like the third time it’s happened now?
21. December 2017
Okay, but what were you saying to him? Either way, if you feel like he goes too far, tell him that it gets to you, but make sure you’re keeping that same energy also. Especially if you were BOTH bantering.
Oloni
Hi Oloni My bf doesnt hype me up anymore or like my pictures. Ik its not that deep but it still bugs me. Is it worth bringing up to him?
21. December 2017
Of course you should tell him. Call me old fashioned, but your partners are usually your number one fans. Express that you find small things like that meaningful.
Oloni
Dear Oloni my bf doesn’t kiss me during sex and I don’t know if this is normal or not but he never does it. I mean he never really kisses me at all, he said before we got together that he wasn’t really a kisser but I thought since being official that could change. I like kissing and always thought people in relationships kiss. Is this normal and how can I get him to kiss me or enjoy kissing?
19. December 2017
It is normal for some people to not be a “kisser”, he might not be good or perhaps just doesn’t like it. Why not talk to him and tell him how you feel about kissing?
Oloni
Hi I recently slept with my boyfriend for the first time and it was great at the time. However when I got up from the bed, I saw a bit of blood on his sheets and I was mortified. He said it’s fine and comforted me about it which was nice but I can’t get over it. I knew it couldn’t be my period because the day we had sex, it had already finished. I’m now weary of having sex with him again in case that mortifying situation happens again. What should I do?
19. December 2017
Heya hun, a lot of women tend to bleed when they lose their virginity. It’s very normal, so don’t freak out. What’s happening is your hymen is tearing as you have sex that includes penetration, causing you to bleed.
Oloni
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