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Hey Oloni, I have just recently gotten married, I found out a couple of months later that my husband had been cheating on me the year we were engaged with his “best friend” who at the time was also engaged to someone else, since I found out and he’s told me everything he’s cut off ties with her. They had also sexted a couple of times when we were on our honeymoon, he swears other than that nothing’s happened since we got married. She is now also married but constantly tweeting about our personal issues he’s obviously told her when they were “friends”, she obviously denied they had had an affair to save face with her husband even though I had proof. I still just feel like she’s constantly trying to ruin our marriage and get in the way. I’m just really struggling to move past this and get on with my life…. Help please
18. December 2017
Ah sis, she’s not the one trying to constantly ruin your marriage, the person who couldn’t keep their dick in their pants is. Yes, she’s a mess, I agree. But your attention should be with the person who got down on one knee and proposed to you. Are you really sure this is someone you want to continue to spend the rest of your life with? You’ve only been married for a short space of time and he’s been unable to stick to the vows you made, I think you should both see a mariage counsellor and have a deep think about this commitment.
Oloni
Ask Oloni: “My Boyfriend Has Herpes, But I’ve Chosen To Stay”
Hey girl , Please how do you protect yourself from a partner that has herpes. I’ve chosen to stay with him. Thanks sis
18. December 2017
Heya, I think it’d be a great idea if you both made a visit to a sexual health clinic for more professional advice. However, I would say it’d be wise to ALWAYS use protection during any sort of intimacy, so this goes for sex that involves vaginal peneteration/anal sex as well as, oral sex. You’re also NEVER supposed to have sex during a break out (even with a condom), so it’s important he informs you about this. You can read more about herpes here: http://simplyoloni.com/usher-herpes-and-everything-you-should-know-about-the-virus/
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I am 19 and sleeping with a married man who is 38 with 3 kids. I’m addicted. I need help
18. December 2017
Leave and cut all ties with him.
Oloni
Hey oloni, I have a problem.. I think I’m addicted to using sex toys. My sex life isn’t too bad and I do get dick but oh my gosh I never want it to end 😩 when my mans not here and I’m at home I’m using sex toys like 3 times a day. Before I work, when I get home from work and before I go to bed, I’m not sure if this is becoming an addiction and it needs to stop lol do you have any tips please?x
18. December 2017
I don’t think it’s an addiction, It just sounds like you have a high libido and understand your body well. I’m not a sex therapist so don’t take my word for gospel. It just sounds like you really enjoy masturbating. If you are seriously worried, try seeking help from a professional.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I’m 19 and at university. This summer I got back together with my ex from 3 years ago at his insurance. The relationship is long distance (he is in Canada, I’m in the UK) for the first two months it went well but lately he barely texts me or calls me. The conversation is bland and I don’t know what to do. He claims he is busy with work and school but I see him out all the time on Snapchat. Sometimes I feel so stupid for taking him back. What should I do ?
18. December 2017
Dump him and find a guy in your own timezone. 19, not 35 and married.
Oloni
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