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Hey , I am 16 and I have got out of a draining relationship with a boy since 13. I met someone in my college and I could tell he was interested in me and within the space of 4 weeks , we developed feelings for eachother . I ended up loosing my virginity to him and from then things went badly . Messages became less and in a week after we had sex , he deleted me off every social media. I can not lie it hurts . Recently he has told me I cannot come to a party that him and his friends put money for and has told ME and my friend that I will never be his girlfriend , I’m not pretty and I should never talk about the time we had sex and I’m not his type . Futhermore , he told his friends we had sex . I still care for him even though he has done me so wrong . It’s like I want him to chase me back but I know I’m not worth a few ” I miss you’s..” Oloni what do I do and even if he does come back what is my next action ?
19. December 2017
Oh hun! A lot of us have been here before. You’ve fallen for someone who doesn’t deserve you. He’s clearly immature and strung you along for fun. I think it’s best you don’t even give him the time of day and move on. There will be other guys out there who won’t treat you anywhere as close to this. You also need work on your self esteem, so you’re able to realise your self worth. Regardless of having sex, this isn’t how human beings should treat each other, it’s wrong and quite disgusting. If he wasn’t interested, then that’s fine, people stop seeing each other everyday, it’s how he’s treated you that’s terrible.
Give yourself some time, you’ll be okay
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so i met this guy in January and right from the start we started having a sexual relationship, this went on for a month and he ended it in Feb. because he knew i started to catch feelings. We started seeing each other again in November, this time i was careful not to catch feelings but he stated staying at mine and was messaging me a lot throughout the day and started giving me advice on my friendship with other people (side note. this is the first guy I’ve spoken to on this level so idk if guys normally do this or not) but just recently he told me this was the last time we were going to have sex because he likes a girl and he was saying that i was using him for sex. IDK if i should tell him i like him also so he can take me serious or just leave him? the sex was AMAZING like the more we done it the better it got. i just need help i keep thinking about him everyday and i just want a reason to talk to him now.
19. December 2017
No, no, no. He stopped seeing you because you became emotionally attached. Popped up back in your life, you both had even more sex, got closer, but he still doesn’t want you. He communicated he wanted to be with someone else. Cut this guy off. Aren’t you tired?
Oloni
I was seeing this guy everything was fine. We went out one day and I haven’t heard from his since. It’s been two weeks, I sent a text (a sexual one) thinking it would get his attention but he ignored. He’s been watching my social media videos etc. Do I message to see if something is wrong with him and if he is ok or do I just leave if ?
19. December 2017
He’s alive and well. He’s also not interested, move on.
Oloni
Hi girl, whenever i try and talk to my bf about issues about our relationship he tells me i’m being moany. But i feel like i only bring up things to him when it’s a genuine issue. what should i do? am I being a nag?
18. December 2017
If he’s dismissing you whilst you’re trying to communicate, he has to go. Dump him.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I have just recently gotten married, I found out a couple of months later that my husband had been cheating on me the year we were engaged with his “best friend” who at the time was also engaged to someone else, since I found out and he’s told me everything he’s cut off ties with her. They had also sexted a couple of times when we were on our honeymoon, he swears other than that nothing’s happened since we got married. She is now also married but constantly tweeting about our personal issues he’s obviously told her when they were “friends”, she obviously denied they had had an affair to save face with her husband even though I had proof. I still just feel like she’s constantly trying to ruin our marriage and get in the way. I’m just really struggling to move past this and get on with my life…. Help please
18. December 2017
Ah sis, she’s not the one trying to constantly ruin your marriage, the person who couldn’t keep their dick in their pants is. Yes, she’s a mess, I agree. But your attention should be with the person who got down on one knee and proposed to you. Are you really sure this is someone you want to continue to spend the rest of your life with? You’ve only been married for a short space of time and he’s been unable to stick to the vows you made, I think you should both see a mariage counsellor and have a deep think about this commitment.
Oloni
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