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Hey. My boyfriend is constantly mentioning a female colleague, and I get jealous whenever he mentions her. I keep it to myself and don’t take it out on him or tell him that I’m jealous, but it’s starting to get to me. How do I stop feeling jealous? Thank you
11. December 2017
Tell him about it, express that it’s low key getting to you.
Oloni
My male best friend of 10 years was always close and always loving. He met some weirdo girl and dropped ALL his friends for her. They two years in and about to get married and I probably won’t even be invited. Is this something I should just let go now since a wife comes before everyone or try to still salvage my friendship? – J.R.
11. December 2017
Two years and you’re only trying to mend your friendship as he gets married? Let this one go, you’re both clearly in different places now.
Oloni
I finally bit the bullet and slept with this guy I was talking to but whilst we doing the deed, he was calling me his ‘dirty bitch’. Not only that, he didn’t go down on me AND he was rapping his music in my ear. Prior to this horrible experience, I actually thought he was a decent guy and I enjoy talking to him. Is this something I can just address to him or should I just leave because of all these red flags?
11. December 2017
Rapping his music to you? Has he lost the plot? Excuse me for laughing, but lol! I don’t think past sexual partners have told him that it’s a huge turn off. “Dirty bitch” I’ve heard of before, but rapping?? That’s a new one.
You need to tell him to cut it out, if you don’t like what he’s saying, literally say “Can you not do that and perhaps do this instead?” (let the “this” be, kissing your neck) – If he doesn’t listen, please don’t sleep with him again.
Oloni
My man and I live together and have been together for about 18 months. We go through phases of having sex – we are either having it every night in a week or we’ll go two or three weeks with very little. I’m perfectly happy with this as my sex drive goes up and down but I just worry it’s not consistent enough for my boyfriend. We have talked about it and he said he’s more than happy with our sex life, but I just want to know if it’s normal to go through phases like this? I have never lived with a boyfriend before so I’m not sure!
11. December 2017
Hey love, it’s normal for your libido to change continuously, same with your partner. The good thing is you’ve communicated with him by asking if he’s sexually satisfied. You also got a positive answer, so you have nothing to worry about.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. I may have given someone an STI and I really don’t know what to do about it. I can’t tell him myself because it will seriously ruin my reputation. I’ve ordered treatment online so I should be good but the guilt in me about this guy is consuming me. I was sleeping with him and another girl at the same time so I’m not actually sure of the origin of the STI but what is the worse that can happen if I just don’t say anything?
11. December 2017
You need to take action immediately, it’s common knowledge that STI’s can be passed when you have unprotected sex. It’d be selfish and sexually irresponsible if you don’t let both people know. What you can do is give both their numbers to a sexual health nurse, who can send a message anonymously on your behalf.
In fututre when you want to have casual sex, be sure to update your sexual health check ups every 3 months and ask all your partners about their last visit.
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