My male friend that I’ve been close to for years has always expressed he’s attracted to me and gets jealous of other guys but he also does that to all of his other female friends. Recently, I’ve just gotten into a relationship and said friend has asked to stay round mine mine, he’s asked before and I’ve always said no. I said i thought it was inappropriate and not how I wanted to start my new relationship. He had a go at me saying ‘I’ve forgotten my friends’ and changing my whole life for a guy I’ve just met. He’s refusing to speak to me but the loss of a long friendship is making me sad. Am I in the wrong?
5. December 2017
You’re not in the wrong, your male bestie is trash and needs to stay in his lane. It’s extremely inappropriate. The fact that he’s already said he likes you is more of a reason as to why you desperately need to end your friendship with him.
It bothers me for you that he feels so entitled to spending the night, after your first response. He has to go. You don’t need friends like him around. How would you honestly feel if your boyfriend was in this position?
Oloni
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Hi Oloni. I came to a girl as a woman recently because her ex was a dog and now she thinks i’m her support system and wants to be like best-friends now. I do not think this is appropriate although I sympathise with her. What do you think is the right way to deal with this?
5. December 2017
Distance yourself and verbalise how you feel.
Oloni
If your ex of a year, whom you’ve been trying to work things out with since July puts a snap saying sick of the bullshit, everything lock off …you msg him asking what’s up and he doesn’t reply, is he referring to me? It’s been 2 weeks. I haven’t tried to contact since and neither has he. Was he referring to me and is it officially over?
5. December 2017
My boyfriend chats up girls everytime but justifies it by saying he isn’t cheating cos he doesn’t talk to them in person and might never meet them but they are sexual chats about how he finds them attractive
5. December 2017
I was in a situationship with this guy and it ended badly he removed me off all social media etc and now we’re done. However I’ve recently found out I’m pregnant and it’s definitely his. I don’t think I’m going to Keep it though because I’m 19 and at uni. I really don’t know how to tell him or if I even should at all. Would it be bad if I decided to get rid of it without telling him?
5. December 2017
If possible call him on withheld and let him know if you really want to get through to him, but only if you’re comfortable doing so. Please make sure you also get the right support from professionals too.
Oloni
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