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Hey oloni, I have a problem.. I think I’m addicted to using sex toys. My sex life isn’t too bad and I do get dick but oh my gosh I never want it to end 😩 when my mans not here and I’m at home I’m using sex toys like 3 times a day. Before I work, when I get home from work and before I go to bed, I’m not sure if this is becoming an addiction and it needs to stop lol do you have any tips please?x
18. December 2017
I don’t think it’s an addiction, It just sounds like you have a high libido and understand your body well. I’m not a sex therapist so don’t take my word for gospel. It just sounds like you really enjoy masturbating. If you are seriously worried, try seeking help from a professional.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I’m 19 and at university. This summer I got back together with my ex from 3 years ago at his insurance. The relationship is long distance (he is in Canada, I’m in the UK) for the first two months it went well but lately he barely texts me or calls me. The conversation is bland and I don’t know what to do. He claims he is busy with work and school but I see him out all the time on Snapchat. Sometimes I feel so stupid for taking him back. What should I do ?
18. December 2017
Dump him and find a guy in your own timezone. 19, not 35 and married.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so me and my boyfriend were overweight when we met and have been so for the 2 years we have been going out. He had to move a way for 6 months for work and he has made a huge change. He’s lost 100lbs in that time and he didn’t tell me(lol to surprise me). I’m so happy for him and he’s never looked better. Since he’s been back though he gets so much attention from women that he never use to get. It’s left me feeling paranoid and scared he’s going to leave me. We don’t even have sex much and I’m guessing it’s because of my size. I have gotten bigger in that time so I’m guessing he finds me less attractive. I see so many women putting heart eyes on his pictures it’s driving me crazy. My Cooking was the way to his heart but he no longer eats my food so I don’t even know what to do. I’m trying to lose weight but other than that is there anything I can do to spark more interest in me from him?
18. December 2017
Hey hun! Thanks for writing in, from what you’ve shared, it seems as though, you’re insecure, and it’s completely normal for you to feel the way you do. However, I’m sure there’s more to you than your physical appearances. There’s a reason he’s been with you for two years and there’s a reason he’s STILL with you today. That’s something you need to realise. Why not ask him for help and use his success as motivation? Tell him how you’ve also been feeling, I’m sure he’d appreciate it.
And please also work on your confidence before anything else.
Oloni hey. An ex who I previously had an abortion for back in my uni days has recently tried to pursue me again. He added me on social media a couple of years after we’ve left and he has apologised for what happened between us (cheating, abortion, general disrespect) and he now appears to be a brand new and improved man. He wants to take me out on a date (we’ve been texting back and forth) and I’m not sure if it’s something I should even be considering due to the hurtful past (although i’m way past it now, I was younger then), I do not want similar mistakes or issues to occur. We’ve established that there are rekindled feelings on both sides, but do you think it’s wise for me to start dating him again? Or would you suggest to leave things in the past? Any advice is appreciated
17. December 2017
Honestly it all boils down to how you feel. I understand you were both younger, but it doesn’t change the fact, he’s from your past and your memories together are not positive. Personally I would let this go.
My bf ripped my fairly new peruvian middle part closure during sex last night and he’s refusing to pay the amount for a brand new one. He was pulling on my hair too hard and I warned him, afterwards I saw that it had ripped and got annoyed with him. I told him to give me £90 for a new one and even showed him the price and he’s saying it’s overpriced and ridiculous. I asked him what I should do and he said I should wear cheaper hair. He left because I was in a mood and he asked if I was over it today but I’m actually not and want the money to buy a new closure which he has adamantly refused to provide. Should I break up with him?
17. December 2017
This isn’t a reason for you to break up, he also just doesn’t have £90 to cough up. It’s irritating that you warned him and he never listened, so instead make that the topic and express how you felt when he ignored your request. That is the issue.
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